The Gift

The Gift

My younger brother was the one who 
took it upon himself to shop for a wife 
for me
I had been in an eight years relationship 
from 1999 - 2007. 
A relationship in which I invested every thing 
and sponsored the lady's tertiary education. 
I had assumed that if a man deflowered a 
lady the lady would be with him forever
I didn't know where I got that idea
It was most likely from reading Wole 
Soyinka's The Lion and the Jewel too 
many times
I was a student at the time and I grossly 
inflated my school fees to my father 
who lived abroad to be able to meet 
the needs of this lady and I
I graduated from Bowen University in 
2008 to discover this lady had met 
another guy in UI and wanted nothing 
to do with me anymore
My heart broke in such a way that I felt 
the pain of the knife plunged into it from 
my back for many days
Loving the wrong person is a very 
dangerous thing
Dealing with heartbreak is something 
else
I couldn't sleep for days and my tears 
would probably cause a still river to 
flow again
My mother and siblings tried very hard 
to help me but the heartbreak had 
plunged me into depression
That was primarily why I moved from 
Ibadan to Lagos
It was an opportunity to leave the dead 
grave of the past and follow the rising 
sun into a new reality in a new environment
I had lost every interest in skirts at 
this time
I just wanted to be alone and live my 
life in safety
I didn't even try to live 
My younger brother had been dating his 
babe for some years 
and needed to get married
He told my mother his plans
My mother was happy but she begged 
him 
to appeal to me to snap out of gloom 
and live again
My mother said "He may never get 
married if he doesn't get help" 
Mothers are the best
She had told me all along that the 
relationship I had with this lady will not 
work out because she was a cheat 
but I didn't listen to my mummy 
because I didn't know how she came 
about her postulation
I fell in love with a blade
I got cut in a million places 
My brother took it upon himself to 
provide me with the needed help
He would often come home and talk 
about a lady he met, he started with 
a medical doctor and then an 
accountant, it went on for many days
He would insist I talk about these 
prospective wives with him and sometimes 
me to meet with such and say hello
I humored him at the time
I love my brother and I could read his
 intention from a million mile but I am a 
do it yourself kinda guy and I just 
wasn't ready
Then one day in February 2019, he came 
home and said "I met a lady today, If I 
was not engaged I would marry her myself"
That got me
My brother was a "one girl" for a lifetime guy
He practically led me to the Lord in 2007 
when I met the Holy Spirit
He doesn't do immorality in any way
He really meant what he said about the 
lady and that got me very curious
I got the lady's phone number and sent 
her a text message
I never expected a response
I did it so that when my brother asked 
me if I made a move, I would reply to 
him that I did
I got a reply
In the text, I introduced myself
In her reply, she introduced herself too
We began to exchange text messages
It was very interesting
In the evening, I would walk to TVC 
from my house to see my older sister
This lady was sharing a cubicle with 
my sister
She didn't know I was the one she was 
exchanging text messages with
She asked to meet me several times 
but I wasn't ready to commit, so I'd deflect
The text exchanges went on for several 
weeks until I told her one day that I have 
come to know her quite well in the past 
few weeks
She said, "Because you see me on TV?"
I didn't know she was a TV presenter at 
the time
I thought she was a reporter like my sister
I had a TV at home but I had not turned 
it on for months
I prefer to read and found the TV to be 
a distraction
I realized that she had a point, I didn't '
know her as much as I thought I did yet
 if I didn't even know she was a 
Newscaster and all
No man can know another unless they 
spend quality time together and walk 
with each other with sincerity
I went to meet her at the TVC 
make-up room on April 2, 2009
I wore my best suit (She later called 
it a coat)
We talked and warmed up to each other
I told her I wanted to marry her
She said she was told by the Holy Spirit 
that I would reach out to her the day 
she received my first text message
I was walking in my preordained path
This made everything seemed easy, 
too easy but that's the life I have been 
called into as a believer
A table had always been set before me
I didn't have a proper job at the time
I was doing some freelance writing that 
offered only stipends
I had plays and books I wanted to 
publish (hoping to hit gold)
I had my beautiful mind and glorious eyes
She was earning six figures, she had her 
own car, a nest egg (Savings) as she 
called it when she told me about it and 
she was the toast of her industry
Her name was Bukola Coker and she 
agreed to marry me
On her birthday in 2009, I bought her a 
Nokia Express Music for 18000 Naira
She started using it immediately, even 
though it was cheaper than the Samsung 
phone she had bought for herself a 
few months before I met her
On my birthday, she gave me 100,000 
Naira cash to spend as I wish
Her parents and well-wishers were 
concerned about my lack of a stable job
I remember hearing her saying to her 
Uncle "Have you heard him speak? 
If you have you will know he is the 
sound of a great glory waiting for its 
time of manifestation
She started marriage class six months 
before I did because I was trying to 
get a job and please everybody
She said "I can see your future, I will 
rest in that, plus the Holy Spirit has 
never given me a bad gift before
He brought you to me, I will trust in Him!"
We got married on October 2, 2010
Everything she saw came to pass,
everything she heard by the spirit
Remember that I didn't say I heard 
anything or saw anything by the Spirit
That was because I didn't! 
It is a great thing to marry a woman 
who is full of the Holy Ghost
Her steps are divinely ordained and 
she wouldn't be able to stumble 
because her path would shine 
brighter and brighter as she 
journeyed in obedience
It is a wonderful thing to be married 
to a man who is full of 
the Holy Ghost and had become one 
with the wind
His path will be clothed in the 
Ananah and his life covered in the 
manifestations of the Spirit of life
Bukola is a blessing to many generations 
and the body of Christ
Happy Birthday to you my love
You're the gift of God unto me