Soft Spot

When you notice that someone has a soft spot for you, the ideal thing to do is to keep it as a form of social currency, so that on the day you really need him or her to come through for you, the person will not think twice.
Some of us think soft spots don't run dry, so we begin to milk them.
We put all our problems on it and make ourselves a nuisance.
By the time the soft spot runs dry, we would have lost all our social credit with the person and turned ourselves into persona non-Granta.
Managing relationships is a skill that has saved many from ruin from the days of Abraham till now.
If you are dating a loving and generous guy, pushing him to cater to your needs and those of your friends is irresponsible.
Pushing him to start fending for your family is irresponsible.
If you think that is him appreciating your value, you are wrong.
It is in the programming of a poverty-infested mind. That mindset is always screaming "Take, take, take" It sees the goodness in others as a weakness and tends to punish genuine love with hard labour until all that is left is disdain and lamentation.
You must work on it!
A man who turns a lady who genuinely loves him into a housemaid by piling loads of work and chores on her is not a man worthy of love.
Your yoke is supposed to be light and your burden easy.
Be worthy of love and be worthy to receive love.
There are too many people looking for love
but are unworthy of it.
At the end of the day, they abuse love and weaponize the confidence and trust that comes with it.
They simply can't help themselves and then they wonder why they are alone without anyone willing to be with them on the long haul.
A man who insists he is set in his ways and cannot be changed by anybody or change for anybody is unworthy of love.
Love changes us all.
A woman who insists she cannot be changed and must only be accepted as she is by a man is not worthy of love.
The purpose of love lies in its ability to change us.
Love is meant to disarm us.
Those in love would often tell the story of how they were and where they were in their journey until they met that one person who changed the trajectory of their life.
A mother would often tell her children that some of the things she takes from them wouldn't have been tolerated when she was still single and by herself.
Of what point is love when it cannot be seen to have any effect on your character?
One lady says "Everybody knows I am a pepper body, there is nobody I have dated even their friends know that I am a pepper body, I no dey gree" and yet she wonders why guys would randomly date her and then walk away.
Who wants to marry someone who is always disagreeable?
Every little thing, she goes "I will change it for you".
From someone who insists she cannot change.
Ironic, isn't it?
You want others to bend for you but cannot bend!
Men and women who exhibit this character are better off alone.
Once in a while, they can meet someone who they will be willing to bend and even change for, when they do this, they regard it as making a huge sacrifice.
They will say, "I have never done so and so for any woman before but I am doing it for you"
Make yourself easy to love, work on it, you won't get any awards for being difficult to love

-GSW-