The Side Chick
The lady pursued him with a single mind
He did his best to fend her off
“I am married” he explained
“Did I say I want to marry you? Please, don’t flatter yourself’’ she retorted
He could see the handwriting on the wall
But she was very determined
She kept insisting she wasn’t trying to get into his life in order to ruin it
‘Just felt a strong pull towards you, I can’t explain it” She said
He was used to fending off swooning girls all the time
His wife had also swooned drunkenly before they got married
He was no Adonis, he was only blessed with the gift of wisdom
The world acknowledged his gift
He speaks at local and international events all over the world
Heads of states, dictators, rulers and global leaders pay to hear him speak
Wisdom had brought him fame and fortune
And also attracted a lot of foolish people to him
Many are star stalkers who just wanted to boast that they had slept with him to their friends
Few covet his friendship and like King Solomon, more than a few covet his bed
Not because he has any outstanding physical qualities
But because of his mind
He had always found this a bit ironic: He called it his three steps to foolishness
- Wisdom attracts the foolish
- The wise sleeps with the foolish
- The wise becomes foolish!
How would he explain to people that in his own wisdom he cheated on his wife and broke his own home?
He had so much to lose by straying
But these sort of women kept coming
When he was much younger and relatively unknown, he would snap at such admirers and shame them into going away!
But today’s world is poised on a knife edge.
One wrong text message, chat or spoken word would go viral! You cannot win.
Tell off a lady the wrong way, you would be accused of lacking empathy, sympathy or compassion
Encourage her, you will be accused of leading her on
Ignore her, you will be accused of being a snob
He always managed to outwait his admirers
Sometimes he would have lunch with them and try very hard to redirect their thinking
But once in a while, there will be that lady with a doggedness he would come to respect
This lady was one of such
She would send him messages over and over until he read them
She kept nibbling away at his resistance
Eventually he met with her
He: What do you want?
She: I am a virgin and I want to be your side chick. Give me the ground rules. If I break any of your rules you have the right to break it off. I respect the fact that you are married. I respect the fact that you are reluctant to do this. I will stick to whatever boundary you give me. But I don’t want you to friend zone me. At one point I will like to sleep with you. It may be today or in six months’ time.
He looked at her and laughed! He looked around for a hidden camera crew.
He: Are you wearing one of those spy pen or spy glasses? Is this a stunt to embarrass me on live tv?
She smiled and motioned him to come with her
They got into his car
She: Take me somewhere else where you’d feel comfortable and you can search me if you want
His resistance broke
What sort of man would say no to her incredible offer?
A beautiful 25 year old virgin offering herself to a 40 year old for fun only!
She had obviously thought everything through
Why deny her such a simple request?
He asked her for three days to consider her proposal
The devil’s got a foot in the door
Three days later she became his side chick
She was 25, dating a 40 year old married man just for the experience!
She had no hidden agenda
It took his wife six months to notice
His wife noticed that the lady’s name kept popping out of his mouth
She asked him one day what was going on
Who was the girl?
He became conscious, no more slips
He meets with the girl once a week at a hotel, they spend four hours together
They talk, they cuddle and yes! He sleeps with her
Sex with her was fresh, new and invigorating
She wanted to learn and he was a willing teacher
She never took a dime from him, not even a gift of any kind
Once in a while, the girl would send him some money
She called it inconvenience change
She would say “Buy something nice for my senior’’,
‘’Take my senior out this weekend’’
By the time their affair was a year old
She had become indispensable to him
He couldn’t imagine life without her
He was still married and goes home to be with his family everyday
But something had changed
His heart was no longer in his home
With every passing day, the distance between his heart and his head increased
Emotion had drowned wisdom in a cesspool of deceit
Three years after she made him the offer
He divorced his wife
One year later, he married the side chick
He had a son and daughter with his ex-wife and a son and a daughter with his second wife
He is still an internationally respected consultant and speaker
PS: The side Chick narrated this story
She was explaining why it is dangerous for a married man or woman to have any form of physical or emotional relationship with anybody outside of their spouses, no matter how strong they think they are spiritually, emotionally or mentally.
She claimed she didn't set out to marry him, though she was in love with him, she was willing to share a little part of his life (however insignificant) despite her feelings for him. She knows it would hurt him to divorce his wife and she didn't want that.
But as time went on the momentum swung towards her because his wife wasn't aware of the fact that the foundation of her home was being eroded. By the time she knew, it was too late!
Emotion is so unpredictable and vagarious.
It can get the better of anybody!
Do you agree with her?