Women are very complex beings
They want their man to be tough, durable, dependable, bold and strong
This was the concept behind chivalry
The idea that men are stronger and should always be willing to help a lady, any lady in distress
Women also want their men to be soft, attentive, caring, mush, romantic, moony eyed, watery eyed, bleeding hearted, emotionally present. But, they want him to be all these things exclusively for them.
To the outside world and every other women apart from their relatives and friends, he should be the (M)an but to them, he should be the (m)an!
Feminism found this idea ridiculous! Women are not weak! Do not open the door for a woman!
Do not treat her like she is physically your inferior! Women and men are equals in every way!
She graduated from law school with a very good result
She was a proud feminist
She had joined the movement right from her 200 Level
Women had been on the receiving end of social injustice for far too long
It was time to level up the playing field!
She was driving home from work one day in the heavy rain
The roads were so flooded that she couldn’t see anything
She found herself in a ditch
She came down from the car
Saw the mess she was in
Started flagging down other vehicles for help
The first car was driven by a woman
The woman didn’t even blink! She sped past splashing water all over her
A man parked.
Six men of different classes, level of education and shapes parked their cars
They told her to get in the car
Started instructing her on when to press the brake and when to press the accelerator
They willingly left the comfort of their cars to be drenched by the heavy rain
They toiled hard
Determined to pull her out of the jam
Another car came
She saw her husband amongst the men helping her
She parked, stormed out of the car and started screaming
“You useless man, you park here playing super man! What is in it for you? Cheap sex, you want to collect her card, ingratiate yourself into her heart? Covetous man and you call yourself a pastor”
The man looked at the screaming woman, turned to her and apologized profusely, then he left!
A problem six men were trying to solve had been compounded by the subtraction of one
The most confounding thing was the woman didn’t even say sorry to her, she didn’t even see her!
Eventually one of the men volunteered to tow her car out with his bigger SUV
The men did all they could to stop traffic, they set up the two cars and started pulling
Other cars waited patiently
But two women who were right in the front kept hooting their horns
It took about 20 minutes, but eventually her car was pulled out
She came down from the car and saw the first woman driving past hurriedly
She was her professor while she was in the university
The number one champion of feminism she knew
Though she had taught and imbibed the ideology in every way
It was alien to her in practice
That was the day the feminism thing died to her
Nobody should have to be put in a position to be at war with his or own nature
It is true that a lot of things are wrong with our world
One gender does not have to demonize the other to further its own cause
She started discussing her observations with some of her friends
They shut it down!
“Your experience simply means women are human
Do you know why those women didn’t stop to help you that day?
They may be in a hurry to get home and cook for their entitled husbands
What if their children needed attention?
Men are the scum of the earth
They would go on to buttress their argument with experiences of other people while invalidating her own experience
She shrugged it off
She met a guy
He was a firm believer in feminism
He attended all their meetings and heads a women advocacy NGO
He was a gentleman who had four beautiful sisters
He found a place in her heart
That place where strawberry mixed with chocolate
The very core
She was smitten by him
He treated her with dignity
He was always considerate, a man practicing feminism better than women
She didn’t know how it happened
One minute they were marching the streets together chanting slogans
The next she had surrendered the keys to her heart and her pants
Every time he dives into her, the sun giggles in her heart
They picked a date
It was all good
She left for a two weeks conference abroad, missed her flight
Tried his number, it was switched off
Drove to his house
His car was not there
She had a spare, she opened the door and saw her friend stark naked on his sofa, fast asleep
She was shocked
What was going on?
She tip toed into the room, left the door slightly ajar
Few minutes later, he arrived!
Her friend was still asleep
He entered the house and screamed
He: What is this?
Her friend started awake, told him to take it easy.
“Why was he screaming like a child?”
He: How did you get in?
Her friend didn’t answer
He: What do you want?
Her friend: See, I am in your house and I am stark naked and you are a man. Let’s assume I tore my clothes, cut myself at the right places and scream sexual assault who do you think the police will believe? Who do you think my friend will believe?
All I have asked of you is sex. No strings attached. The shoe is on the other foot now, for years men have pressured women into having sex with them.
This is the age of women. All it will do is make me feel empowered and you will feel used for a change!
So am I screaming in terror or screaming in pleasure?
Her man gave in.
She saw his shoulders slouch and knew he had caved!
That slouch was his tell!
She came out of the room, her eyes on fire
Her friend saw her and screamed!
It became a fight
She was so angry! So mad!
He had to call the security man to separate them
Her friend left the worse off the encounter
She left too
He called off the engagement
He didn’t give a reason
She was abroad when she got his message
He blocked her on the social media and her phone number
When she returned she went to see him
He said he had to leave the feminist movement and everything pertaining to it, including her behind
And that was that!
PS: It’s been two years, he had married a good girl from his church
Her friend had relocated to the US
She just met someone
They are talking things a step at a time