The Interloper's Treatment

There is always that one babe with deep and serious insecurity issues. She does not have any idea of what she is worth on her own.

The only way she measures herself is by how much a man has done for another woman whom she considers her rival, equal, or contemporary in her life.

She would usually be on her own until she hears the gist, from one of her friends or colleagues that a man dated a lady and flew her to London

Then she hears that the man also took the same lady shopping in Paris and to spend Christmas in New York.

The more she hears juicy details of how generous the man was towards a particular lady, the more she desires the same man.

Once she heard that the man and the lady, he had been doing all these things for had broken up, she would instantly queue up to take the man for herself

She would plot, scheme, and do anything to get the man's attention and become his girlfriend

When she gets into the man's life, she would expect the man to automatically open up his wallet and start spending money on her the same way he spent money on the previous lady

Most of the time, the man would not do this. She would wonder why

"I have heard reports of how generous he is.

I was told he bought "so and so" Gucci bags and took her on luxurious trips, and so on, but he is not treating me to the same bouquet of goodies he treated her to Why?"

She gets frustrated by the day as the same man takes her to third-rate hotels, restaurants, shops, and cinemas, and literally acts as if she were the kind of babe to hide from his world and not to be displayed and celebrated as he treated the other lady.

She waits for him to recover from his heartbreak and pain of losing the other lady, believing that he had kept her away from his world and his wallet because he was heartbroken, and she was just playing the role of heart nurse to him at that moment.

Days will roll into months, and there will be no improvement. One day, she would voice out her frustrations.

"But you flew so and so to Monaco, you took so and so to the grand prix, you went to the fashion show in Paris with so and so, and you bought her stuff for more than such and such amount!

And yet you sleep with me, and all I ask for is for you to pay my visa fee, and you are reluctant

I asked that you take me to Kigali or even Ghana, but you refused.

I asked that you buy me Kampala or even Adire, and you wouldn't.

"Is it because I am doing a good girl for you?"

Because you men always like the ladies who would be unreasonable and wicked to you.

What does your ex-girlfriend, who broke your heart, have that made you do all that for her that I don't have?

I only asked that you lend me three million naira for my proof of funds so that I can get a UK visa, and you have refused to send it to me, but with so and so, you wrote a letter of sponsorship for her in your company name and went with her to the embassy for her interview.

What is she offering you that I am not? Why have you been this meant to me?

You have not given me as much as one percent of the trips and pleasures you offered to the person who broke your heart for free, and I have been working hard here trying to please you

I even watch videos to do better with the way I serve you sex whenever you want it

When you said her blowjob game was out of this world, I took a course on it so that I could take you places with my mouth

For all my efforts, I am barely getting an E treatment from you, and you always gave her an A treatment. Why is this?

The man will not be able to tell her that he does not love her

She came to him as a warm body that he could close his eyes and sleep with while imagining he was with the one who broke his heart

He feels nothing for her

She could as well be a sexbot or an effigy as far as he was concerned

He wouldn't be able to tell her directly that all her efforts were impressive, but the one who broke his heart didn't even need to lift a finger for his heart to start singing.

He wouldn't be able to tell her that she does not make his heart sing; all she was doing at the moment was to help him heal from his heartbreak and get over the weakness in his heart, which could have made him crawl back to the one who broke his heart.

And for that, he had been generous and kind to her as much as he felt she deserved.

He would just coast along with her until he had fully recovered, and then he would ease her out of his life.

He would collect everything he had lent her and make sure the relationship ended in as transactional a manner as possible.

At a point, she would be saying, "I am not a "runs girl", I am not a booty call, I am not a lady of the night, and I am getting the feeling that this is how you are treating me".

He didn't want to treat her that way, but he couldn't help it.

She came into her life to play a role, and after playing the role, she needed to move on. He has healed, and he needed to fly again.

She had become a yoke around his neck, and that yoke needed to be broken for him to be free.

She, on the other hand, would not see things this way.

She would feel used, ill-treated, and unappreciated.

She would feel she had sacrificed her time and energy for someone who had refused to match her energy.

She would feel heartbroken and bereft. Then she would feel scorned.

The next thing she would do is withdraw to lick her wounds, and then she would begin to boil with rage and the pains of her heartbreak

She then gets on her WhatsApp status and starts typing a lot of things

From there, she finds her way to social media

She writes about John Doe or uses the term "some people," or tells the story of someone who lied to her and deceived her and used her

Some of her friends will see her posts and use this as an avenue to fish for information

She would spill as much as she could in the name of talking to her support system

The more she speaks, the more emboldened she becomes. She came to believe she was a victim.

How dare a man who slept with her give her peanuts while the lady he slept with before her got jewelries.

She would totally forget the fact that the way he felt about both of them was different, and this informed how he treated the two of them.

PS: There is always more to a story when you hear it from the right perspective

-GSW=