i noticed a pretty young lady on the site.
She pushed a wheelbarrow with food
for the site workers.
She sold food tor them in packs every day.
I was impressed with her industry,
so I called her one day and asked why
she was doing this job.
She was 18, hoping to sit for the next
Matriculation Examination to enter
She was selling food to raise funds for
I was more impressed!
We exchanged numbers and I told her
I would help her in any way I could.
We became friends and she joined
an online church I lead.
After a while, she relocated to Kaduna.
She went back home to her parents.
She called me a few weeks ago when
the day for her examination was
known: 18th March.
She sat for the examinations and passed,
she is awaiting admission.
We got chatting a few days ago and
she mentioned what a few of her
colleagues were into while awaiting
admission too: some were looking for
men to sponsor their education,
some were into drugs, some were
into outright prostitution!
Then she said, “Sir, if not for home-training,
I probably would be out there with them,
looking for what they are looking for!”
That statement from Salamatu set me
if not for home-training.
In other words, she was RESTRAINED
by her home-training.
She would have been into some vices
like her mates, but something held
Home-training, she called it.
Salamatu would probably want to go
out with men and have fun.
But something would hold her back,
telling her no, don’t do that!
It’s against how you were trained from
Salamatu would want to smoke a
cigarette and just feel among her peers.
She would want to sniff cocaine or
drink to a stupor.
She would want to go clubbing.
But something in her would tell her,
no, don’t do it!
That’s not right!
Salamatu is restrained by her
The question now is,
WHAT RESTRAINS YOU?
What is keeping you from manifesting
and expressing your dark side?
What is reeling you in?
What is holding you back?
What is restraining you?
Paul wrote, “For the love of Christ
constrains (restrains) us…”-
2nd Corinthians 5:14. Paul’s restrainer
was the Love of Christ.
What is yours? If whatever is your
restrainer is taken away, what will happen?
Is your restrainer a man?
Is it a physical barrier?
Is it an ideology?
A prisoner is restrained by walls and chains.
is not in a position to steal rape or murder.
But when he is free from these restraints,
he could commit these crimes.
That would show that his restraints
were only physical, it has nothing to do
with the person
He is internal.
I have seen pictures and videos of
people doing stuff seemingly unexpected
They were very embarrassed when
these things came out to the public.
But I understand that their restrainer
was their visibility and popularity.
When they assumed the public would
not be aware of their conduct, they
did stuff unbecoming of their status.
Paul wrote, “He who restrains will do
so until he is taken out of the way…”
- 2nd Thessalonians 2:7.
When he(it) is taken out of the way,
you will act like a dam that has
breached its walls.
You will indulge in stuff you had
always wanted to but couldn’t,
because of the restrainer.
In Salamatu’s case, her restrainer
is not physical.
It is mental.
It has been ingrained into her from
her younger days, so wherever she
found herself, she would always hear
that voice behind her saying,
“This is not the way to go!
This is not right! This is against the
ideals you were taught!
This is at variance with the values
engrained in you!”
As a Christian, we MUST make Jesus,
the Word of God our Restrainer.
You MUST make the word your
shield and buckler.
You MUST study it, understand it,
believe it, apply and practice it and
GROW in it.
Jesus faced situations in his life that
he would have indulged in the flesh,
but he never did.
He was always restrained by the Word.
When tempted, he would say,
“It is written…”
The Word was His Restrainer.
I know another 18-year-old lady,
Sope who schools in the US.
Her parents live in Abuja, Nigeria.
She is also a member of the online
Church I lead.
I once told her, “I’m surprised your
parents let you go to the US at such
a young age, without anyone to
watch over you!”
She responded, “Sir, my parents trust me.
They know me.
They trained me properly- they know
I can’t do anything against the values
I was brought up with!”
I was happy with her response and
Now, if our earthly parents could wield
such an influence on us that what they
told us have stuck with us for decades,
why can’t our Heavenly Father do same?
Why don’t we hold his training in such
Sope said, “My parents KNOW me.
My parents TRUST me”.
Can we say same about God?
Can we say, “God knows me, God
God said of Abraham, “I KNOW HIM!”
- Genesis 18:19.
In other words, God could predict
Abraham’s reactions to issues.
God knew how much influence
He had on Abraham’s life. God knew
He was Abraham’s Restrainer.
Ask yourself honestly, who/what
What would you do when nobody is
What could you do when nobody
What would you do if you knew you
would get away with it?
What do you have the capacity to do,
but you’re being held back?
What is that thing holding you back?
Who/what is your Restrainer?
- Haruna Daniels @Harrydaniyah on Twitter