A sexless Marriage Is A Dead Marriage

Love flows like a gentle spring rain, nourishing every couple’s heart. But marriage often becomes a torrential downpour that extinguishes love’s flame.

A friend told me about his best friend getting divorced during a recent trip back home. He had always admired their marriage, thinking everything was perfect between them.

They talked for hours that day. He wondered if they had been settling from the very beginning of their relationship to the point where they could no longer tolerate each other in marriage.

Good love, good marriage — both should have expectations for each other. When you stop expecting anything from your partner, you’re essentially giving them permission to cross lines you can’t accept.

You’re clearly unhappy, but you say nothing. You tell yourself to be tolerant and accommodating. But as you accommodate more and more, you find it increasingly impossible to accommodate each other. Without healthy boundaries in marriage, accommodation eventually becomes impossible.

Marriage is like a young sapling. Beyond providing enough nutrients and sunlight, you need to regularly prune its growth path. Otherwise, it grows increasingly crooked until it can never return to its original form.

Most marriages require mutual expectations and accountability to help each other grow. Only then can this tree grow straight and strong. Trees that rely solely on natural conditions rarely grow both tall and straight.

My friend always thought their marriage was happy, but they revealed they’d been living separately for a year. What happened during that year? Nobody knows except them. They haven’t moved out because of their child.

Every day after work, they return home, go through their evening routines, then retreat to separate bedrooms. They rarely communicate — even when discussing matters concerning their child, they keep conversations to a minimum.

They’ve grown accustomed to this silence, treating each other as if the other doesn’t exist. They placed a large notebook on the dining table. When they need each other’s help with child-related matters, they leave messages in that notebook.

Sometimes, when dropping their child off at school alone, he can’t help but want to ask: “If your mom and I divorce, who would you want to live with?”

But then he realizes this would be too cruel. After all, the child is still in kindergarten — forcing such a choice would break his heart.

A sexless marriage naturally becomes a loveless one.

Young couples often believe that without physical intimacy, love gradually disappears. Without sexual intimacy as the seasoning in marriage, something always feels missing. If there’s no love left, why stay together?

In old age, love between partners depends on heart-to-heart connection. Growing old together, supporting each other through life’s journey — that’s the most admirable kind of love.

Marriage is the daily grind of groceries, bills, and chores. But love is the thread that ties all these mundane matters together. Without this thread, marriage crumbles into scattered sand. If you can barely continue, how can you hope to grow old together?

Love among seniors might be subtle, perhaps just a simple expression of care. No longer like young people declaring “I love you” or exchanging other sweet words.

That love between elderly partners is often the constant nagging and complaining on their lips, yet their bodies willingly do anything for each other.

Love is two people holding hands through life’s long journey, letting time prove the existence of their love — not words, but actions.

They say love has warmth that touches the heart. Whether two people truly love each other shows in their daily lives — do they make each other’s heart feel warm? That’s what true love really is.