Good Secrets Vs. Evil Secrets

Doing things in secret is neither good nor bad.
Some people just like to keep their matters to themselves and not announce them to the world.
Some prefer to announce everything and see no value in keeping anything secret.
Good secrets, however, do not stay secret for too long; it has an expiry date
Evil Secrets stay perpetually in the abyss; there is no expiry date for it, and there is no time when it can come out to be celebrated.
It is why I hate every form of evil secret.
More than the secret, the lack of consideration of those who expect you to keep their evil secret, out of consideration for them, without any regard for the fact that they have ultimately made you an accessory after the fact, and ultimately a partaker of their evil plans.
You can do your evil without sharing the details with anyone; in fact, that will be the true definition of a secret.

Anything known to more than you and which you have to make people swear to keep from divulging is evil in all its forms
David slept with Bathsheba; it was evil, but it was secret, and he got away with it
Weeks later, Bathsheba sent him a message that she had missed her period.
David switched from checkers to chess
He felt all he had to do was bring Uriah back home from the war front to have sex with Bathsheba so that they could commit paternity fraud and give the baby to Bathsheba's husband
Uriah came home from the warfront and refused to sleep with his wife out of devotion to the army, even when he was pilled with wine, he refused to sleep with Bathsheba.
Bathsheba sent a message to David, declaring that her husband did not sleep with her and she was still pregnant
David decided to do the needful.
He gave Uriah a letter to deliver to Joab
The content of the letter instructed Joab to place Uriah right in the thick of battle.
By so doing, Joab guaranteed Uriah's death.
Joab became complicit in the death of Uriah by obeying the king.
The King did not consider what this would do to Joab.
Many of us do not consider the implications that the secrets you ask people to keep have on them
We only think of our own selfish needs when we entrust people with secrets
If it is a secret, why can't you know it by yourself and go to your grave with it
Why would you rob people of their deniability in the name of sharing something you should have kept to yourself?
Evil things fester in secret
Evil things done by one or two people, only to co-opt others into it as a test of their loyalty, is brazenly unfair.
People must live their lives free from guilt and the burdens of unnecessary knowledge

Joab lost all respect for David after the death of Uriah.
Joab had always been hot-headed, and when he killed Abner several years before, David cried and screamed for all of Israel to hear.
The same David who declared himself innocent of guilt in the case of the death of Abner was now the one who ordered the death of Uriah through the same Joab.
David's action emboldened Joab, because he felt he now had something to dangle over the king, and it reflected in his behavioural patterns until he was killed.
Secrets change people.
It changes how people see people
It alters perspectives and affects convictions
It is like a seed you planted and kept away from the sunlight; the plant will grow, but you cannot predict the kind of fruits it will bear.
The worst kinds of secrets are the ones that you didn't choose to know, but somehow you were told, and the person who told you then says if you dare divulge it, you will die.
What is it that warrants that kind of harassment?
It is your secret
I didn't beg to know it
I mind my business and keep my nose out of people's issues
You then choose to burden me with it, only to tell me I will die if I dare to share it.
You should have kept your mouth shut and died with the secret if you truly love and care for those you told about it.

I was at a funeral service in 2012
I was the one who bought the cow used for this funeral as a gift to the widow of the man who died, to support the family
I drove behind the truck carrying the cow all the way from Kara, after the long bridge in Lagos, to the house of the family in mourning deep in the Lagos mainland.
The butchers who would help kill the car also rode in the truck with it
When we got there, they started making preparations to kill the cow when a sudden noise erupted
A lady in her thirties and her mother came out of nowhere to claim half of the cow
I was with the widow, consoling her and sharing with her the news that I had bought her a cow to help feed the crowd that had gathered for the funeral rites.
Naturally, the widow should remain indoors, but when the noise persisted, she had to see what was going on, and I followed her
Immediately, the widow saw them, she turned around and returned to her apartment
She said to me, "My husband has a daughter outside the marriage. As soon as he died, I took all the documents pertaining to our properties and kept them with a friend.
I knew they would show their shameless faces, but I didn't know they would come fighting for meat."
I was shocked
The man was a model Christian, someone I respected very much and took almost as a father.
I would have respected him more if he had drawn that daughter near and dared the consequences of doing so while he was alive
He kept it a secret, and when it came out, it was a bitter pill for everyone involved to swallow
The secret forever altered how I saw him, and I hated that.

PS: I evolved a policy since then, that I will live my life on my terms and will own my actions with all my chest
I will be so successful that whatever I do, I will be accountable only to God and myself.
I especially disliked the hypocrisy encouraged by Christian doctrines and churches, which makes a man unable to own his mistakes and still be respected in society.
The man who made mistakes or did wrong things and owned up to it, in my book, is more honourable than the one who covered his misdeed just so people could see him as someone he truly was not.
I cannot say I have always taken the right decisions in my life, but I can say that everything I have done in my life, I can take a microphone and share them boldly without a care as to what anybody thinks or says.
I have earned for myself that level of independence, and I thrive in it.

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