Hard-Headedness

Sometimes our hard headedness is what makes us the enemy of our own wellbeing.

You are a single mother.

You met a man in London, a medical doctor.

He married you and took your daughter in.

From day one, your daughter began to frustrate the life of this man.

The man began to walk on egg shells from the day your daughter told him he is not her father and had no right to correct her unless she wants him to call the police and report him.

The man bought a house on the outskirts of London, because the apartment he was renting in London became too expensive for him to maintain.

Your daughter said she will not leave London because of her friends. She called the police and told them your husband was trying to kidnap her.

You said she is like you, strong willed!

You said that was how your mother also was like.

You begged a neighbour to take her in while you and the rest of the family moved out of London to your husband's new house.

The neighbours that took your daughter in sent her packing after one term,they said she was influencing their daughter the wrong way.

You begged your husband to accept her and he did.

She joined another school and made friends with some white girls.

She told them all sorts of horrible stories about your husband abusing her (all lies).

Her friends reported the case to the school authority and social services were sent to your house.

Your husband was grilled by the police for hours, they also went to his place of work to make serious trouble.

He almost lost his license .

You asked your daughter why she was behaving the way she was behaving.

She said she does not want to live with you anymore and asked you to let her go to her father.

You reached out to her father in Nigeria, the man said you should send her over .

She was fifteen years old and had spent 12 years with you and your second husband at this time.

She travelled to Nigeria and stayed with her father.

You refuse to let her be.

You will be on the call with her for several hours in a day.

It got so bad the man had to call your mother to report you that you are not allowing the girl to settle down.

Meanwhile, your husband has told you that you should not bring the girl and all her troubles back into his life.

After only one term in Nigeria, came to Nigeria to see how she was doing with her father.

When you were living, she cried, because of that you told her to pack her bags and follow you back to the UK.

You got to the UK with her and your husband freaked out.

He left the house and refused to come back into the house.

You have called and written messages, begged and cried.

Your two other children, whom you have for your husband had a nanny whom  you employed to help you with the children.

The nanny was the one your husband started relating with instead of you.

You felt your husband would have no option but to return home if you sack the nanny.

So you went ahead and sacked the nanny.

The nanny told your husband she had been sacked.

Your husband came to the house in anger and told you that you cannot sack the nanny he employed to care for his children.

You said it is your home and you don't want the nanny there.

Voices were raised and the atmosphere was tense.

Your daughter called the police again.

The police came in and told your husband to leave the house for peace to reign.

This morning, you got a message from his lawyers.

He has sold the house and has also filed for separation.

You are crying and asking God for restoration.

Aunty, can you please look into the mirror and see the enemy starring back at you.

-GSW-