Help from Within

Her husband went to Heidelberg 
to get his Ph.D 
The programme took about four years 
She had to find the means to cope 
with her children throughout the duration 
She made several tough choices 
Choices she didn't have to make if 
he was at home with them 
Allowing him to travel was the
hardest one! 
She thought about it for several 
months 
How would she cope? 
They both had their first degrees 
in Germany 
They met during one of the parties 
hosted by a fellow Nigerian student 
Somehow their relationship took off 
The relationship was neither planned 
was intended
She had a lover she left at home 
A lover she loved with all her heart 
She was determined to complete 
her studies and go back to her lover's 
waiting arms 
For that reason, she steeled her mind 
and closed the door of her emotions 
to any thought or imagination that 
could make her vulnerable to temptation
 and/or adjust her course in life 
She had always liked to be in charge of 
her own destiny 
For her it had to be her lover and no 
one else 
She was in her second year when 
she got the pictures 
Her lover had impregnated her best 
friend 
With the pictures came a letter from 
her younger sister about the scandalous 
conduct of both her lover and best 
friend in Nigeria. 
It was shocking and wicked
She almost died after seeing it
Eventually, her lover's letter arrived 
He said he was determined to wait 
for her and be with her but her absence 
made his love for her weary and faint. 
He for his actions but he had chosen 
to go with another woman 
He didn't say who the woman was 
Her best friend had stopped writing 
to her for many months 
When she wrote several letters 
without getting a reply, she assumed 
something was wrong but she couldn't 
even imagine what it turned out to be 
Her best friend was elegant and beautiful 
and had always acted as if she was too 
classy for any man 
There were several things her girlfriend 
told her about her man that made it seem 
her best friend could never touch her man 
with a long pole not to talk of sleeping 
with him or getting pregnant for him 
But such is life 
She dusted herself up and began 
searching again 
She felt there was no use crying over 
split milk but she learned a very vital 
lesson from the episode 
Absence can make the heart weary, 
faint and sometimes give-up
She promised herself never to do a 
long-distance relationship again 
It wasn't worth it in her opinion 
She had seen couples that thrived 
in such a relationship 
She just wasn't that lucky and there 
was no point tempting fate 
When she completed her studies, 
she waited a year for him to complete 
his studies
She could have returned home but it
would mean doing the long-distance 
thing over again and she just couldn't 
deal
So she waited so that they could return
home together
She didn't mind what her parents 
were saying 
Her father especially felt she shouldn't 
put her life on hold because of any man 
But talk is cheap 
He couldn't marry her and neither could 
any of her brothers 
She knew she had to do whatever had 
to be done to secure her home
They got married and started a family 
immediately 
He got employed in a publishing firm 
She got employed at a horticultural 
and landscaping firm 
She miscarried after the first three 
months of her pregnancies three 
times in a row 
That was between the first and 
second year of their marriage 
The doctor placed her bed rest and 
strict observation the fourth time 
she got pregnant 
She was practically out of circulation 
for the duration of her pregnancy 
That was how she lost her job 
Her husband's job was paying very 
well 
and he was a very caring man 
He practically split his salary into 
two every month and handed half 
over to her to spend as she saw fit 
They had three children in all 
Her pregnancy experience was the 
same throughout 
When their third child was two 
years old, her husband lost his job 
The company he was working for 
folded up
Things became very tight 
He tried starting several businesses 
They all failed 
He eventually got a job in another 
publishing firm but the pay was too low 
and the owner of the business was a 
slave driver
 It was a sweatshop! 
That was when her husband decided 
he had to further his education to get 
ahead in life 
She felt all he needed was a better job 
or a business that would provide for 
the need of the family 
She didn't see any sense in a married man 
with three children going back to school 
How would a student fend for his family? 
He reasoned with her initially but when 
nothing changed for a year, he fell into 
depression 
It took the help of the church, friends and 
family members to help them during 
that season 
He was a grown man with great potential 
working in a sweatshop and being 
treated like a rag by his employer 
He couldn't stomach the humiliation anymore 
He resigned 
Everybody wanted him to snap out of the 
depression and heal 
His thoughts went back to the "I want to get 
my Ph. D" thing 
Everybody said he should go since that 
was what he desired to do 
There was no point keeping a depressed 
man at home
The sickness would only get worse
Somehow the funds came out and the 
papers were processed 
He traveled within a year after he made 
his intentions known 
Even she, despite her protestations, 
helped out with his ticket 
Her paternal uncle was a travel agent and 
offered free travel tickets which she took 
advantage of
The first two months after his departure 
was peaceful 
The children's school fees had been paid 
before he departed and all she had to do 
was get them to school every day and 
prepare their meals 
After the two months, she ran out of money 
Her husband had promised to send monthly
allowance from Germany 
He was allowed to work while he studied 
but he couldn't get a decent job 
He made some money packing spaghetti 
at a factory as an unskilled laborer but 
it was barely enough for him to meet up 
with his weekly rent 
She had to fend for the family until he found
his feet! 
She dusted her CV and went job hunting 
She wrote and submitted applications 
She visited old friends and colleagues 
She visited friends and family members 
who might know somebody who would 
offer her a job 
She got invited for interviews easily but 
landing a job proved to be a more 
difficult task 
An interviewer asked her what her 
husband does 
She told him her husband was abroad 
The interviewer looked at her and said 
"You mean to say these assets here 
(pointing to her breasts) have been 
left to lie fallow? 
Wow! If you don't mind, I can be of
service in that area, just so that these 
things won't lose their sensations 
and get rusty" 
The conversations almost always went 
that way, except for a decent few 
who would say No! or politely tell
 her they couldn't offer her a job 
It wasn't easier for him in Germany 
He met a lady at the supermarket 
She was a Nigerian who had spent 
nearly all her life in Germany 
She listened to his story and offered 
him a room in her apartment 
She was in her lady thirties and had 
been divorced twice 
She didn't have a child from either of 
the marriages but she got some
money out of the divorces 
It was a much-needed help 
He wouldn't be paying rent for a room 
he hardly slept in 
(He worked the night shift at the 
factory four days in a row and usually 
went to school from there) 
The only reason he needed his own
accommodation was because of his
clothes, books and other personal
belongings
The factory's lockers only had room
for one change of clothes, boots and
security helmet
He moved in on his off day 
That night, the lady came into his 
room naked
It was a tough choice
if he said no, he knew she would kick
him out
He had rushed to Western union that
afternoon to send his rent and some
change to his wife and children
He didn't have a dime and he didn't
have anywhere to go
He slept with the lady
His relationship with the lady made
life better for him in Germany
He had access to her cars, the house
and was able to leverage on her
goodwill to get a better paying job
He told the lady about his family
The lady smiled and said the right
things but it didn't deter her from
riding him late into the night
He started sending money home
constantly
His family had suffered for six months 
before things fell into shape but
things got better
The lady in Germany never asked him
for a dime, not even for bills and all
All she wanted was his presence,
companionship and sex
His wife was deprived of all that but
she was getting money every week
for the upkeep of the house and
also for building on the land which
he had purchased for several years
The clap and dance went on for three
years
While he was writing his project and
psyching himself up to leave Germany
and return to his family, the lady in
Germany miraculously got pregnant
It caught him unawares
The lady had been extremely careful
about birth control and all
In fact, before she allowed him move
from the guest room into her room,
she dragged him to the hospital to do
blood work and ensure neither of them
had any disease
He had been faithful to her knowing
it was part of the prize he paid for
trying to make it in a foreign land
How she managed to get pregnant 
was beyond him
The next thing the lady did was report
to the Social services that she was
pregnant and he was denying paternity
Such a case could affect him severely
in future
He could be deported or jailed  and
his record tarnished
He begged her to withdraw the case
and promised her he would stay with 
her until she delivers her baby
The lady insisted they had to get
married
He married her
His wife knew all about the affair
He told her himself but swore it was
the only way she wouldn't have to
go into prostitution to feed the
children
She also knew he was rounding off
They had built a dream house and
bought fine cars in four years
All that was left was for him to get
his certificate and return home
The terms of their agreement changed
drastically
The lady insisted he owed her money
She calculated all the cash gifts, rent
everything he had enjoyed for free and
told him he had to pay her or stay put
Short of running away from Germany
ánd probably getting stuck in Nigeria
forever because he would never be
granted visa again if there was a 
complaint against him, he had no other
plan of escape
He got his certificate and also got a
new job
His wife couldn't believe it
Her husband had been snatched by
a strange woman
She fasted and prayed
She went from a church to a church 
to another church
Nothing worked
Her husband kept sending her money
but he had become legally married
to another and even had a child
After two years of waiting for her
husband to return, someone counseled
her to move on or get a lover to be
with
She was too young to be waiting for
a man who was living large in Germany
"Put your children in the boarding
school, wear short skirts and g-string
and get back on the horse!
You need to do some riding and you
also needed to be ridden!" said her 
friend
Her friend's counsel made sense
She was thirty-three years old when 
her husband traveled
She had crossed her legs for six years
She had almost forgotten what sex
feels like
And yet she waited for a man whose
marriage to another was a to death
do us part affair
She reached out to the brother in 
Jeans and T-shirt
She said "I have looked up to the 
hills, my help has refused to come!
If you dont help me, i will lose my
faith and trust in God!
All i want is my husband back
I know we made a lot of selfish and
ungodly decisions and perhaps i am
paying for my complacency or
tacit agreement to his union with this
woman but I have had enough!
Please help me Sir"
The brother in Jeans and T-shirt asked
her if she was born again
She said YES!
"Are you full of the Holy Spirit?"
She said yes
The brother in Jeans and T-shirt said
"Stop looking above, Help is dwelling
within you! in your spirit sits the
Holy Spirit, connect with him and
solve this!
You can never be put at a disadvantage!"
They prayed together over the phone
They prayed in the spirit
That night, at about 1 AM
The lady woke up from bed and told
her husband she wanted to meet his
people in Nigeria
It came out of the blue
Her husband informed her of the 
developments immediately
She sent a message to the brother in
Jeans and T-shirt
Something had happened but she
wasn't sure where it was leading to
Two months later they arrived
The lady, her husband and their baby
The lady had never been to Nigeria
since she was a child
They lodged in a hotel 
The next morning, the lady told her
husband he would like to meet his 
Nigerian wife and children
They met at the hotel
When she got to the room, the lady
told her husband to excuse them
When the husband left, the lady
handed over the baby to her and
also gave her some money for the
baby's upkeep
The lady said she had a dream
in the middle of the night that 
something will happen to her and
her baby would be lost in the 
adoption system
She realized the best bet was for
a child to be with someone who
would give her the best care
That was why she decided to come
to Nigeria!
Wow!
They left the hotel for their house that
day
The lady stayed with them for three
weeks
She and her husband returned to 
Germany in April 2018
Her husband tidied things up and 
returned to Nigeria finally in June 2018

PS: There is help within you
The family lives in Abuja, Nigeria
The husband started a company dealing
with electrical cables and other electronic
materials
The company is flourishing
The baby was her only girl
The other children were all boys
The lady in Germany is still alive
and doing very well
She took up dancing and met another
man
Another chapter had opened for her
and she moved on
The family lives in Abuja, Nigeria

PS: Believers often forget that the
Jews looked up to the hills for help
because God was an external factor
in their reality
We have God in us
We are full of the Holy Spirit
When we pray and connect with
him
He responds and settles our issues
I got a similar testimony to this one
today
I am reminded of His faithfulness
on every side
If you can learn a thing or two
from these testimonies
It will strengthen your faith and
do you a world of God
Glory be to God