How Paternity Fraud Ruined My Life

Good evening, sir.

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to talk to you.

My story is quite long, but I'll make it as brief as possible.

A few years ago, I noticed a trend in my life, especially in my career. Initially, I thought it was just coincidental, and that was just one of those things. But I noticed that the same thing kept happening over and over again. And in the process, it affected my career. It affected relationships with people, whether I worked with friends or, you know, because I was the dominant factor in everything happening.

So, definitely, people assumed that I was the one with the issue.

So, I noticed that when I started my career, I noticed that every boss I worked with initially liked me. And after some time working with them, they would just develop immense hatred, not just dislike, but they sort of never wanted to see me. And strangely, some of them would say that I had not offended them in any way. Some would say they just didn't like me.

And I remember one saying one time that there was an aura around me, you know. And another one, I remember one day she was in her office. I went to talk to her and the next thing she said I should get out. That was a hindrance to her prayers. I didn't really know what was happening because I don't like conflict, I don't fight, I don't... It just didn't make sense to me. It was like, you're sitting down, but trouble would always come to meet you.

And the painful thing is that these bosses were the ones who had the power for my career to grow in terms of promotion and all. And because they didn't like me, they never promoted me. They always wanted me out of whichever organization I was in. Some of them went as far as, you know, if I had good grades in anything, they would make sure that the grades were reduced so that I could be sacked or so. You know, it just did not make sense to me.

And people looking at me from afar would wonder why this person has prospects and all that. I just didn't understand. And it continued. It now made me realize that even before then, those things were showing, but I wasn't cautious. And I remember then, I would mention to my mom, she would just say things like, oh, don't mind them, they're this, they're... You know, but after some time, I was wondering that everybody, all these people cannot... It cannot be the reason she's giving.

How? People who had no reason, you know, to be whatever she... It just didn't make sense. And then it continued, even with friends. I would... I'll be close to people who get along, things will be okay. And I'll wake up one morning, and they'll stop talking to me. They didn't even want to see me. They... I don't know. They just developed hatred. They won't even say a word to me.

And then, of course, all these things that are affecting even, you know, like I said, my career, my finances were hit. I would go... I would go for interviews. People will see my CV, they'll say, oh, wow, you have, you know, the experience, this, you're a top candidate. At the end of the day, I will not be selected. Even sometimes, even the people in the organization will be like, but this person qualifies.

And it kept going. And then I would do courses, programs in a class, maybe a class of 10 or 12. Despite a lot of effort, everybody can see I'll be the only one who will fail. It kept happening. It just didn't make sense. Then when people try to help me at the last minute, they will disappoint.

On one occasion, somebody came, she said, oh, that she had a dream and somebody was trying to attack a family member. And that she knows that any time that happens is because maybe she's trying to help somebody and there's a hindrance. It just did not make sense to me. And it has made me start to avoid people because it's the same cycle. I get to know people, they like me, and then they just detest me. They don't want to see me. It's like that.

And then the one which also baffles me is that in my family, right from day one, I mean, growing up, I just thought we were a normal family. Yes, polygamous, you know. But as I grew up, I realized that there was something strange about my own setting. In my own case, my father didn't want to see me in particular. He hated me so much. No matter how much I tried to build a relationship, he didn't want to see me at all. It didn't even make sense.

Then I had a particular sibling, because out of all of us, I'm, you know, the only female and the last. I had this sibling who hated me so much, even till today, right from childhood, for no reason. Even people would ask, why do you, you know, the hatred was so intense that a lot of things used to happen until now.

And it's so bad that all of a sudden, even the first sibling that I got along with in the last like three years, just woke up one day and I became an enemy. He doesn't want to see me, nothing. And then my father died. And first of all, when my father died, they didn't tell me. Everybody knew, my siblings, my mother, they didn't. I heard from outside, which was odd.

And even when they wanted to start the preparations, I was the one even asking questions. I found out that they already had a WhatsApp group and I was not there. My own siblings were even the admin. And even when I asked, they were just dribbling me and all that. I made an appearance. I got information, made an appearance. I could tell I wasn't wanted there. They didn't talk to me.

You know, people didn't even think I would appear. It just seemed odd. And then when they were going to read my father's will, obviously whoever, maybe the lawyer contacted one of my siblings. And this is my mother's child. I was the only one he refused to inform because I think the lawyer asked for the numbers of everybody. So I was the only one absent there. They didn't give the lawyer my number. So I was not informed about the dates, the time, or where. So I was not there.

And of course, apart from that, when they read the will, it happened that I was the only one who was not given anything. Not that I was expecting, given the way my father had treated me. But it just seemed very strange. You know, it didn't look real. And it's been like that. There's nobody to talk to, to speak to. When I asked my mom, she acted as if she was not aware.

And I'm like, all these years, for instance, everybody knew that this sibling did not like me, even the domestics. But you are saying that you are not aware. Then the siblings are not talking to me. And you're like, you are not aware. You are not even asking them. You are not.

But it's just the consistency in the issues, the battles. And because I'm the dominant figure, I've become so scared to relate with people, because the fear is that after some time, they're going to start hating me. Then a lot of closed doors, hits. And, you know, this has impacted my career, my finances. It has made me struggle.

I've prayed, I have fasted. Today, this man of God will say this or that. Then, after some time, they just stop communicating. It's frustrating, to be honest. Of course, it's as if I'm not seeing, obviously, it has affected the relationship, marital, you know, I don't know. It's even in the workspace; if it's not, it's always one thing. If there's no peace, even if I get a job, something, something, a boss that is in control will just wake up and decide they don't like me. They can't tell. Some, as I said, will say I have not offended them in any way, but they just don't want me around. That's just been it.

I've prayed, I have fasted. Today, this man of God will say this or that. Then, after some time, they just stop communicating. It's frustrating, to be honest.

I also noticed something. This is still with relationships with people, especially if I go to stay with people. I noticed that even people that I know that are nice, I know issues with them, people that I got along with so well, you know, the moment I step into their homes, maybe sometimes they actually say, you know what, oh, why don't you come and stay with us, you know, and all that.

But I noticed that after some time, they just want me out. They just want me out.

Funnily, just like the career, the workspace, they can't really say this. Some will just be going in circles. Oh, you did this. You did this. Like when you're saying something, but you're not saying anything because everything they probably could have accused me of, I've ticked.

Even places that I've paid for, I've stayed in a place where I paid and the owner was also staying there. And all of a sudden it started with minor things.

"Oh, you don't greet me".

You don't do this, which I found a bit strange considering the fact that we don't meet like that. And I wasn't the only occupant there.

And the other occupants were not having the same issues. And I wasn't a noisemaker, landlord hardly saw me, you know, so it's, it was odd. And then I woke up one day and I was told I had to leave the place. This was a place where I was paying.

So it has also made me not want to stay with anyone for any reason. I don't even like to, you know, not even, Oh, maybe you want to spend the weekend with someone.

I don't, because I'm so scared, because I'm seeing things that are happening to me that are not me. Those are not, I know deep inside that's not who I am, but they're just part of the frustrations that I'm feeling. Like I don't want, I feel lost.

I eventually reached out to you to pray for me and share with me what was wrong. I saw a vision, in the vision, I was told that the person I know as my father is not my father, and the people I have called family are not my family.

I had been planted in the wrong place through deceit and manipulation.

I confronted my mother, she is 84 years old now by the way and she confirmed it.

Suddenly, everything made sense to me.

Thank you.

Ps: This is a case of paternity fraud and its impact on the innocent child

She is 44 years old now, a divorced mother of two.

She has borne the stigma of her mother’s misdeeds all her life.

The hatred within the family, at work, in relationships, marriage and friendships all stem from being planted among the wrong people as a result of an illegitimate affair which her mother had with another man which resulted in her birth.

No mother who truly understands the impact paternity fraud has on the child spiritually, socially, emotionally, economically, maritally and psychologically will endeavour to plant a child deceitfully in a family he or she does not belong to by blood and by right.

-GSW-