Misconceptions

The case was a nail biter
She was a medical doctor
She graduated top of her class
She got a job at one of the best 
private hospitals in Lagos
Her pay was reasonable
She met him at a friend's birthday 
party
They were from the same state
He was a businessman with great 
potential 
they got married after one year of 
courtship
She was already 29 and had always 
desired to have a family of her own
He was 34, he had waited for a 
long time to get the right woman
She was it
She got pregnant immediately 
after their marriage and delivered a 
bouncing baby boy
Things got a bit tricky after then
She came from a wealthy home where 
things were expected to be done in 
a certain way
Her mother saw the evidence of some 
struggle in their home and called her 
attention to it
She told her mother things will get 
better once she was able to write her 
professional exams
She would become a consultant 
and earn even more money
Her mother said "Okay"
But her mother had misgivings
She raised her daughter to be the 
best and her daughter was the best
in her class
How come her daughter was not 
enjoying the benefits of being the 
best 
Her daughter and her husband had 
only one car between them
That was not what she was expecting
Her daughter's colleagues had the 
time to study for their professional 
exams and most of them had become 
consultants
Her daughter was still struggling 
through life
When her mother got home, her 
mother told her father what she 
observed
Her father decided to help out in 
his own way
He approached the commissioner 
for health and asked if his daughter 
could be employed in the state's 
healthcare system
From experience, he knew those 
working for state hospitals have 
more time on their hands to prepare 
for their professional exams than 
those in private practice
He was told to write a letter to the 
commissioner for health and he 
did so
He called his daughter to explain 
the steps he had taken to help her 
career
The daughter told her husband
The 
husband nodded
When they didn't get any response 
from the govt, the husband himself 
called an older brother and asked 
him to intervene with the commissioner
The older brother intervened
The commissioner looked into the 
matter and she got employed into the 
state government's 
hospital
She resigned from her job in Lagos 
and started making arrangements to 
relocate to their home state with the 
children
Her husband's business was in Lagos 
and it cannot be moved
They had agreed that he would be 
coming over to see them as often as 
possible at her new station 
A week after she resigned, she got a 
message from their resident state's 
conflict resolution department
Her husband had written a petition 
against her taking the children to 
another state citing disruption of 
their education and other things
She was shocked
They were sleeping on the same 
bed
He didn't give her any indication 
that he was not in support of their 
plans
She asked him about it
He kept mum and told her she 
would find out what she did wrong 
when she got to the meeting
They got to the meeting, he claimed 
her family had taken over the 
running of the marriage
Her parents had perfected a plan 
to lure her and his children back to 
their state and tear the family apart
He made it look as if she was a 
puppet and her parents were the 
puppeteers of her life and he 
insisted he would not be led around 
by the nose
The government officials told her 
she couldn't take the children as 
long as her husband didn't want 
them to be taken
She cried all the way home
She had purchased their travel 
ticket and all
Why the sudden change of mind
She called his older brother and 
explained everything
After the discussion, 
she realized he was not acting 
alone
His family members were in the 
know
She called their pastor and the 
pastor arrange a meeting
Her husband said she was returning 
to her parent's house with his children 
and he would never permit that
The way he said it was how it 
looked on the 
surface and he insisted that was 
how things truly stood between them
She was short of words
If he had told her to rent a flat in 
their home town she would have 
done so but he didnt
He didn't even give her a cent in support
Her husband was suddenly against her 
resignation and plan 
to move out of Lagos
She knew he was influenced by his 
family members to go against all her 
plans and efforts
What she didn't understand was the 
reason behind the sudden animosity
That night, out of frustration, she 
went into the kitchen and got a knife
She walked to their room 
and woke her husband up
She told her husband calmly that if 
he separates her from her children, 
she would kill herself
Her husband was suddenly calm 
and understanding
He told her she could have the 
children and pleaded with her to 
return the knife to the kitchen
The next morning, she took the 
children to school
In the afternoon her husband picked 
up the children and refused to 
return home with them claiming she 
was emotionally unstable and had 
threatened to kill everybody with 
a knife the previous night
Everybody that heard the story felt 
like stoning her 
she had no intention of hurting 
anybody but what she did was 
unwise and she had been taken 
advantage of mercilessly
She pleaded and begged
She was summoned to sign an 
undertaken by the state government's 
lawyer not to pull such stunts again
Her husband and the children returned 
home
She traveled alone to resume the new job
it was the most painful season of her life
She cried every day
Her husband stopped picking her calls 
and she resorted to talking to her children 
through the housemaid
Her parents tried to talk to her husband 
but he refused to pick their calls
There were certain issues that were 
not so important before the whole 
drama started which her husband 
unearthed in other to play the victim
She reached out to the brother in 
Jeans and T-shirt on Twitter
She wanted God to intervene
She wanted her home fully restored 
The brother in Jeans and T-shirt met 
with her husband
There was a lot of back and forth
He told his part of the story
She told her part of the story
He said he was all-in on the idea at 
first but he suddenly realized it was 
a bad idea when his wife's family 
took over everything 
as if she was not married
He was very uncomfortable with the 
idea of breaking his family up just so 
that his wife can become a consultant
Other doctors were becoming 
consultants in Lagos without having 
to go back home and decimating the 
family but his wife kept saying 
"After all the efforts my parents had 
put into this, how will I go back and 
tell them I am no longer interested"
The husband felt it was better they 
got a divorce and go their separate 
ways than for him to be married 
while his wife was living under her 
parent's roof with their children in 
another state
He said the wife should resign
The wife said she cannot resign at 
that time
He said she was prioritizing her 
career and parent's feelings or words 
over their marriage
She said he was being unreasonable
The matter remained unresolved 
that day
Everybody parted ways 
A week later, the husband got a 
court summons over the custody 
of the children
They were on holiday and the wife 
realized her husband was locking 
them in with the housemaid every day 
for fear that she might come and take 
the children away
She insisted he was a poor caregiver 
and the children were better off in 
her care
Husband dragged the matter back 
to the brother in Jeans and T-shirt
Another round of back and forth 
ensued
They prayed
They got to court
Both sides talked vehemently against 
each other
After the court hearing, they met
She was in tears 
"Why are you so mean to me?
You know I love you and didn't mean 
you any harm"
She lamented
He hugged her
Then he kissed her
Then they took each other away 
from the office
The brother in Jeans and T-shirt wish 
he could turn into a fly and see what 
they did to each other when they 
got home that day
It would have made the story juicier
Long story short
The matter was resolved out of court
She took the children to her parent's house
Her husband visited often...Very often
She is pregnant again...

PS: The Holy Spirit is a resolver of 
deep conflicts, trust HIM