Period

The first time he heard that his wife 
was cheating on him
He cried all the way from Atlanta to 
Nigeria
He saw a message from his mother
The message said one of the instrumentalists 
in his church went to report himself to 
some elders in the church for disciplinary 
action because had been engaging in 
sexual immorality.
Upon investigation, it was discovered that 
the person he was having sexual relations 
with was the pastor's wife
The elders didn't know how to go about it
Some said the instrumentalist was framing 
the pastor's wife in order to bring down 
the pastor's ministry and tear his family apart
Others said the pastor's wife should be 
invited to face the elders and defend the 
allegations
it was a political issue
Had it been any other person, they would 
have acted swiftly but the pastor's wife 
was off-limits, even for the elders
So they took the case to his mother 
and his mother sent him a message 
asking for directions
The message was not such a shock 
to him
His wife had been threatening that she 
would ruin his ministry for several months 
if he does not quit the ministry and return 
to his medical practice
He had told her what she was asking him
 to do was next to impossible
He knew from the age of twelve what his 
calling was in ministry
He preached his first sermon at a village 
crusade at the age of fifteen
He got his B. TH degree at the age of 
twenty before proceeding to 
the university to study medicine
He started his ministry on the University 
campus
The ministry was fifty members strong 
when she joined them
She was a minstrel, the daughter of a 
reverend and a medical student
Everybody told him she was the one
Truth be told, she was a beauty 
but she was a beauty that craved 
adulation and attention
All her life, she had been surrounded by 
guys who hung around her simply 
because of how beautiful she was
She wasn't the kind of woman any 
wise man would take for granted
Men who married a woman like her 
would practically fete her and make 
her the center of their world
She was a trophy and she knew it
The problem was, he couldn't bring 
himself to see her that way
He couldn't bring himself to treat her 
like Odysseus treated Circe
He had been given a commission by 
God and that was his life purpose 
She felt his inability to treat her as her 
beauty deserved was pride
She didn't like it at all
Naturally, men listen to her even when
 she said rubbish, men did it
It was an advantage her looks gave 
her but not with him
She was challenged by his defiance 
and was determined to get 
him to treat her as she deserved
That was the basis for their relationship
She told him she was attracted to him 
because he kept a clear head around her
She told him he commanded her 
respect with his drive and passion 
for the things of God
She really wanted to be sold out to God 
like him
So she tagged along hoping to catch 
his zeal but wishes are not horses
She faked loving him just for the fun of it 
but it was a monumental mistake
As soon as she started dating him, she 
noticed all the other admirers she had 
just backed off
He was not the kind of pastor 
anybody wanted to have an issue with
He was very anointed
That was the beginning of her discontent
The fact that her admirers dried up 
affected her self esteem badly and the 
fact that he didn't have the time to bask 
in her beauty terrified her
it was as if being with him turned 
her into a pillar of salt
By this time she was already in her 
final year
She told her mother about him and 
her mother danced for joy for a whole day
It seemed his charm and future was 
such a bright light that only she saw 
the blight in it
Everyone congratulated her for making 
the right choice
And they were all proven right
Within the first five years of the marriage, 
she had everything she could ever 
dream of
Yet, she had this gnawing emptiness in 
her heart
A void she couldn't explain
It was as if her life was at a standstill
She couldn't feel the pulse 
of her own dreams anymore
By this time she had given birth to two 
children and settled down to her own 
medical practice
She had everything
She was a consultant in her field of 
medicine, she was married with children 
and she was rich
Whenever she thought about it, she 
felt she 
ought to be grateful but she wasn't
She was unhappy, almost despondent
It was a puzzle
She stood by the window looking into 
the estate where they lived and saw it
An elderly couple, taking a walk 
towards the gym
It dawned on her that she would 
most likely never have that'- 
The attention of her husband the 
way other women command the 
attention of their husbands
Her husband was an itinerant minister 
of the gospel
Always on the move
Night of fire here, Night of Thunder there
That was the void she felt
The pang of loneliness amidst plenty
That was when she decided he had 
to retire from the ministry
She knew it would be a battle
She prepared her heart
He arrived home from one of his 
conferences and she sat him down 
for a chit chat
She asked him when he planned to 
retire from preaching the gospel
She told him about her struggles
He told her the options available
He said she could hand over her 
hospital to another and travel the 
with him
That way they get to spend some 
quality time together as a couple
She said no
Why should she be the one to give 
up her dreams for him..
He had been in ministry since he
was a teenager, why couldn't he hand 
over that torch to another and be a 
full-time husband and father to his 
children
He asked her how she expected him 
to take care of his family
She told him he could always pick 
up his stethoscope and return to 
medicine
He took the suggestion badly
The discussion ended up in a 
bitter row
He said she was selfish and wicked
She said he was wicked and 
unreasonable
God can always choose another 
man to do what he was doing but God 
cannot give her another man to do 
what he ought to be doing with her 
and her children!
She was determined to have her way
He started ignoring her, hoping she 
would see reason with him and desist 
from the path she had set her heart 
to take
After six months of back and forth, 
she moved out of their room into the 
guest room
It was her first salvo
Her warning shot to him 
that she would rather leave him that 
continue to endure an attention less 
marriage
He ignored her
Then she read an article in a foreign 
magazine about a woman who got her 
husband's attention by cheating on him
That was what led to her having sex 
with the young instrumentalist 
It was a cry for help that went wrong
First, she really didn't want to sleep 
with him (She just wanted to take 
pictures and shake up her husband a 
bit but the events that happened once 
they got into that hotel room and the 
surge of power she felt coursing 
through her veins as she 
straddled him led to that
Second, she didn't expect the 
instrumentlist to grow a conscience and 
report himself to the elders of the 
church
By the time she heard how bad the 
matter had gotten, her mother in law 
had informed her husband
She didn't know how to feel but she 
was relieved the issue 
was out in the open
Immediately she knew her husband 
had been informed, she prepared 
herself for battle
Social media was always going to 
back a lonely pastor's wife who 
was starved of attention against 
an authority figure like her husband
She did a video and a long thread to 
explain her side of the story
She spoke with her lawyer and some
 journalists about the likely court 
battle that will ensue
She spoke with her parents and 
relatives to prepare their hearts for 
the inevitable shit storm
She slept that night with all her 
implements of battle on 
course for battle
Her husband went to see her parents 
for a meeting the next morning as 
soon as his flight landed in Nigeria
They resolved to settle everything 
amicably
Her husband and her parents drove 
in a convoy to the house at 9 am
They found her children watching a 
cartoon 
The housemaid was in the kitchen 
preparing breakfast
When they got to her room, they 
found her on the bed
She was dead-
There was no sign of any foul play
The doctors said she suffered a heart 
attack in the middle of the night
That was it!
She died at 40
her husband was 44

PS: I wrote an article once announcing
that a Man of God cannot marry just 
anybody
This was in 2011
This lady responded to me that it is a 
lie
We got into each other's DM and I
explained to her that it is a dangerous
thing to be married to a Man of God
and try to detract or distract him from
his purpose
It will be the story of the shrub trying
to prevent the elephant from getting
to the river
It will be dragged along
Anyone who will marry a Man of God
must know that God will always come
first
It is not his fault
It is how he has become wired
There are many pastors living ordinary
human lives you are safe to marry
one of those but there are some
Men of God who have seen the Lord
To stand in their path, is to stand in
the path of a moving train
Moses married Zipporah
He wanted to circumcize their son
because that was what being an
Israelite demanded
Zipporah ( A Midianite) said No
One night, on their way to Egypt
An angel of the Lord attacked
Moses and would have killed him
if Zipporah didn't circumcise the
boy and throw his foreskin at 
Moses
(Exodus 4:25)
If you are a needy, clingy, willful,
attention-seeking kind of woman 
or man, keep away from a Man
of God you can see the power
of God and the reality of the 
Holy Spirit at work in
Go and marry a doctrine keeper
It is for your safety
When a man of God is distracted,
the ministering angels working
with him will strike the source
of the distraction
This is a fact!
Finally, rather than resort to cheating,
threats and manipulation to wrestle
a man of God from His God, you are
free to leave
Just walk away from the marriage with
your life intact
The man of God will give you everything
you desire and you can remarry
It is better to acknowledge your mistake
and mend your ways by walking away
from the marriage than to insist
you will stand between a Man of God
and His God-ordained purpose
on the flip side, a Man of God should
not also marry for the same reason 
other people get married
A man or woman of God should marry 
a partner whose purpose, goal and 
drive matches his own
I know what it means for the Zeal of
the Father's purpose to consume
a man to the point where he would
forget to eat for many days without
fasting
The path of a son is different
Taking it sometimes requires walking
alone for many seasons
(I write as a man, and not by the spirit)