She was very reluctant to place the call
But she desperately needed help
Who could she reach out to?
Where would her help come from?
Her husband was a bi-sexual
She found out months after they got married
It wasn’t as if he couldn’t be with a woman
He simply did it as a duty
It was very obvious that he derived no joy from sleeping with her
At first she didn’t mind
She really didn’t enjoy sex too
She always wondered what the big deal was
Maybe she just wasn’t wired to be that way
It was one of her biggest fears as a spinster
She feared she would get married and her husband would expose her sexual inadequacies
She really had very little appetite for sex
On their wedding night
The foreplay felt more like a stalling from both of them than a prelude to hot engagement
He suddenly turned her around and before she could say “What is going on?”
He had inserted himself inside her other exterior
He did it in such a way that he had a death grip on her two arms
She was practically spread eagled on her face and raped by her own husband
When he was done, she was in tears
He feigned ignorance, asking her if she was a virgin!
Did I hurt you in any way? Was it the hymen?
He almost had her fooled
He looked so innocent and sorry
“Didn’t you see that you put your thing in the wrong place?”
What! O My God!
“I didn’t know!
I must have been too drunk to notice, but I must confess, you have a very sweet hmmm” he replied
She forgave him
He managed to do the normal thing when they went again
She couldn’t wait for it to be over
Somehow she got pregnant
She took full advantage of the pregnancy in other to avoid sex
Of course she knew he would be getting it somewhere else
She was not wired to mind such
As long as he respected her and kept the other sources far from her face she is okay with it
In actual fact, whenever he was going to a party with some of his friends overnight, she would give him a pack of condoms
“Take it and use it if you must, please don’t come back home with any disease that could ruin our lives” She would tell him
People used to tell her she was tacitly encouraging her husband to sleep around
She would tell them sleeping around was non-negotiable for men generally, although she wouldn’t admit that as a wife, she was very uncomfortable with having sex with her husband or anybody else for that matter
She studied Biology, polygamy is inherent in the nature of men
Men who married sexual tigresses cheat on their wives not to talk of a man who was married to a prig like her!
She was pregnant with her second child when her husband came home with his first “Boyfriend”
Her husband merely informed her that he would be bringing home a guest who would stay in their boys quarters for a while
He described the guest as a friend
She didn’t smell a rat
The guest moved in and minded his business
She also minded her business
Until she saw them one evening several weeks later
She had finished cooking he husband’s meal and wanted to call him from the boys-quarters
When she got to the door it was slightly ajar
The thing must have really hooked them
Her husband was the giver
The guest, the happy receiver
Their eyes met, her husband rode on as if her presence spurred him on the more
Later that night he told her he would understand if she wanted a divorce
He had always been that way and if he divorced now it would only set him free to live the life he had always wanted without hurting her any further
She understood him
But it was time to be selfish
Where would she go?
Who would accommodate her?
What about the children?
The next morning, after her husband left for work, the guest paid him a visit
The Guest: I am happy you saw us yesterday, it is time for you to leave this house with your children
She: Are you okay at all? How dare you talk to me like this in my own matrimonial home?
The Guest: He doesn’t love you, he never did and I don’t like to share
She: You must be unhinged! I am going nowhere
The Guest: If you don’t leave, I will make it my duty to indoctrinate your children! By the time I am done with them, they will be so broken they might end up committing suicide!
The Guest left
His words kept ringing in her ears
She left early for the children’s school, she seriously needed to see them and be sure they were fine
Once she picked them, she started thinking seriously about leaving her husband’s house
But she had nobody
Her father recently remarried and moved back to the village
Her mother had abandoned her and her brother and resettled in the UK since she was 2 years old
She remembered one of her cousins
Though they didn’t have a particularly good relationship, blood is still ticker than water
She called her cousin
Her cousin drove down to their house immediately
Her cousin immediately swung to action
Helped her pack some of her stuff and that of her children
Within two hours of her cousin’s arrival
They were ready!
Her husband arrived home
She allowed the children to say goodbye to him
She didn’t tell him about her conversation with The Guest
She hugged him and told him he can visit them at any time he so desired
As she left him behind she couldn’t help but hope for a brighter future
Though they were not rich, she and her children never lacked anything materially while they were with
She had to admit that they have been miserable
He shouldn’t have gotten married
Perhaps knowing her own inadequacies too, she shouldn’t have gotten married
Unlike many women, she couldn’t claim that she had been the best wife, just as he couldn’t claim to
have been the best husband
She owned her own small scale business and would have some respite while staying with her cousin
She really needed to sit down and sort things out
Exactly ten days after she left him
The police arrived at her cousin’s house looking for her
They informed her that her husband and the guest were involved in a ghastly motor accident while
returning from the club the previous night
They both died on the spot!
They were not officially divorced
She went back home with her children to mourn him
They buried him a few days later
He left her and her children with two houses, some choice cars and some money
She vowed she would never remarry!
PS: A brother spoke to me about remarrying
He had lost his wife five years ago to cancer
He was hopeful of meeting a widow
I broached the topic with this young beautiful widow I met recently
She just smiled and walked away
Few days later, she came to my office for a chit-chat
She opened her mouth and this incredible story dropped!
I asked her how she had been handling pressure from friends and family members to remarry
She said “Every time I look into the mirror, I am happy!
I am not making anybody’s life miserable simply because I want to please the society!
What is the point of marrying despite knowing I have this baggage!
It is better to err on the side of caution"