Better Choices

I was involved in a DNA case recently

A young lady I know got pregnant

She was an undergraduate attending a private University in Nigeria

Her father was a very well to do man who is more than able to care for her and her baby

She told her mother she had gotten pregnant

Her father insisted she must tell him who the father of the child was

She mentioned a particular young man

The guy was the son of the richest man in her school

She had slept with him several times and she was convinced he was the one

Her parents approached the young man's family

They called their son and asked him to tell them the truth

He said he had slept with her several times, but he was not the only one sleeping with her

He said they were a clique of fourteen in their group

They club together, party together and move in a convoy

Every male in the group sleeps with every female in the group

So, sleeping with her several times was not his exclusive right

It was a community sex thing, and everybody had slept with everybody several times too

He wondered why she conveniently singled him out as the father of her baby

He said he already had someone he was dating and hoping to get married to

When her parents asked her if what the young man said was true, she just cried.

I saw her crying almost ten hours every day from morning till night

She refused to speak eloquently so that we can sort out the issue

Ask her a direct question, she will respond with tears.

Eventually, the young man's parents decided that the best thing to do is wait until she delivers the baby and then do a DNA test to ascertain who the father of the baby was

The young man was helpful to the investigation

He mentioned the names of all the other guys in their community so that samples can be collected from them for DNA tests too

The baby was born at one of the most prestigious hospitals in Lagos

A DNA test was conducted immediately

The young man was not the father of the baby

The other samples taken were also tested and none of them turned out to be the father of the baby

It turned out she was sleeping with someone else outside of their community and only she knows the person.

She refused to disclose the person to anyone, including her mother

Anytime anybody asks her any question about it, she just wept.

So, we had to leave it.

She is back in school at the moment

The baby is with her parents

Her father gave the child his surname and even though he was disappointed, he said he hoped she had learnt her lessons and would make better choices going forward.

PS: I decided to write this because of another DNA test case I saw making the rounds in the media

It is advisable that the lady involved in the story tell her daughter the truth.

She is harming the young lady by insisting someone who has been disproved by DNA test is her father.

She does not owe the duty of truth to anyone else, but she owes it to that young lady

You cannot let a girl believe a lie from when she was born and despite conducting five DNA tests, insist on the lies when there is clear cut evidence of what the truth is.

When you are caught in a lie, the best thing to do is not to double down but to make U-turn.

-GSW-