A forty-five-year-old lady came to my office
with her children for prayers before they
returned to school! Her first child was
a 15-year-old lady, the second was
a 10-year-old boy!
The mother said she was led to bring
them to me because they were not doing
We prayed! As they were about to take
their leave, the young lady said
"Sir, can I talk to you alone?"
Her mother was shocked!
I had very little time to spare and wasn't
prepared for that turn of event!
But it would be "unnice" to act impatient
with the young lady I said it is ok
The mother and the younger brother
left for the reception I called in one of
my female colleagues (Didn't want to
become famous overnight.
Nobody trusts nobody these days)
The young lady said "Sir, I don't want
to get married! I want to become a nun,
I hate marriage! I hate God!
Apparently, she was her mother's
Her mother poured all the bile of her
marriage in her right from the age
she was old enough to understand
Her mother was a believer, one of the
old school types of Christian who
didn't keep friends! She had no one
else to talk to
Her mother didn't tell her about the
Apparently we humans keep the good
to ourselves and share the bad!
When her husband built a house,
she didn't stop reminding the daughter
that she was the one who supervised
the project and dealt with the land
grabbers with wisdom
All the girl heard from her mother was
the gloom and doom of the marriage!
But I am privy to how much the marriage
had thrived in the few years I have
known the family! I know the daughter
had either not been updated or had been
so wrongly stirred that's he cannot see
I invited the mother and the son back
into my office after a while!
Then the ten-year-old boy also said
"I want to talk to you too"
Wow! So I decided to listen to him
He said "My mummy is bad, she hates
my daddy and she is always telling
people bad things about my daddy"
He continued "My daddy is a good man,
he is always crying at home! If he tells
my mummy to do something for him,
my mummy will say "I want to help you
but I don't want the witches in your
family to shoot their arrows at me"
So my Daddy does everything by
himself! I am not happy!
I sat for a long time I didn't know how
to approach the issue I prayed and
waited After about fifteen minutes,
I put a call through to her husband,
I asked him to come to my office
When he arrived I asked the family
to sit down I told them to forgive
me for what I was about to do
I turned to the wife and without
mentioning the daughter's name asked
her if indeed her husband was as terrible
as her daughter portrayed!
She was shocked!
Even the incidents that she had forgotten
or that she slanted the story
to soothe her own narrative or outright lies!
The daughter remembered everything!
The daughter remembered her dreams in
which she claimed she was attacked by
witches from their father's family!
The daughter forgot nothing!
Her husband was in tears!
She was in tears!
The children were crying too
I told them Forgive each other
Do it now in front of your children and
You have built a stronghold of woe and
despair in your children's minds
You have practically ruined their journey
before it began!
Couples will always have their issues
But we must open our eyes to see
even as we cry
This is key!
Playing the victim to elicit sympathy
from your children against your
spouse is witchcraft!
Manipulating the emotion of children
Reporting your spouse to your children
Don't ruin their lives
Calling a gender "scum" is foolish!
The family bounced back gracefully
The young lady is now an undergraduate
The boy is now a teen
Its been four years
I have seen tremendous improvement
in that family
The lady's witchcraft infested
imagination was curbed
Her husband became less defensive
and more transparent