Breaking Trauma’s Stronghold 

Met a lady a few years ago, she said she goes everywhere with a condom in her bag I asked her why she said that while she was somewhere in Ogun State for NYSC, she took a bike from one location to another during the ride, the bike man veered off into the forest, pulled out a knife, and told her to take off her clothes. She said there was no point in fighting or screaming, she did as she was told and prayed the bike man won’t kill her afterwards. She said when the man was done, he jumped on the bike and left her in the forest. She found her way back to the city.
 The only fear she had was getting pregnant or catching an STD She said she got to the hospital, got her system flushed, but still had to wait for two weeks to be sure she was in the clear. It was the most anxious two weeks of her life, she said she would rather not go through that again, so she got some condoms and put them in her bag so that if she ever found herself in that situation again, she could beg the rapist to please use it instead of putting her through that stress again.
I felt pretty bad that a rapist could have that kind of power over someone, even after the deed had been done. I asked her if she believed that the Holy Spirit could give her closure on the issue, she said she believed so we prayed. I asked the Lord to bring the rapist to Justice and please do it in such a manner that the sister will know it. A few days later, my sister called me and spoke about a TV show on crime. She said she was cooking when the show came on, and some criminals were being paraded. One of them was a rapist, and he confessed to raping people using his motorcycle. What convinced her that the rapist was the one captured was her ID card, which they found on him. This was seven years after the crime. She asked me what I think she should do. I told her we would go to the TV station and ask the reporter to help us with the location of the rapist. We went to see the reporter, she told us all we needed to know, then we went to the police station and were allowed to see the criminal. He recognized her immediately! He started begging for forgiveness and asking her not to show up as a witness against him in court. She looked at him and laughed. That was the end of her trauma; she walked out of that station with her power and dignity completely restored. All the things she had to adjust her life to accommodate due to fear and trauma were solved. She had moved back to her parents’ house, taken up a teaching job close to her parents’ house, and was afraid of going anywhere alone or at night. Within a year after she got closure, she had moved to Abuja, gotten a job with an NGO, and was able to go wherever she wanted whenever she wanted. She got free of trauma not by “die by fire” prayers, which are totally ineffective, but through the power of the Holy Spirit and the wisdom of God applied in the form of making her confront her fears and gaining dominion over them. 

I know another young man who has an aunt who sexually molested him for years as a young boy, one would expect that after many years he would have forgotten all about the sexual molestation and moved on, but this was not the case because the boy’s aunt was big in stature, he would suddenly have panic attacks whenever he found himself in close proximity to ladies who were very big in stature. Whenever any lady became nice and friendly towards him, he became suspicious and would not welcome any gesture of friendship. His friends noticed his hostility towards women who were just being friendly towards him and told him he was overreacting in his response to them, he never knew how bad it was until a lady in his office came to whisper something in his ear while he was sitting behind his desk, inside his cubicle he didn’t see the lady coming, and the huge body mass of the lady made him feel as if the lady was trapping him and leaving him without a way of escape from his cubicle. He began to hyperventilate and found it difficult to breathe. He had to be rushed to the hospital. When the doctor eventually got around to talking to him, he was told it was all in his head, and physically, he was okay and shouldn’t have had such a severe reaction to anyone coming into his personal space. He decided he would have to conquer whatever it was so that he wouldn’t be embarrassed the way he was again by his psyche.
 He asked the Lord to heal him in the place of prayer. The Lord showed him a picture of him, lying on top of his aunt in a bathtub, who was stark naked, while the aunt was encouraging him to suck her breasts and put his hand in the most intimate part of her body. He remembered clearly that his aunt was always bathing him or bathing with him when he was young, and most of the time, the things he did with his aunt were unprintable. He also remembered that they were caught one day, and the person who saw them was livid with anger and promised to report what he saw to his parents before his parents returned from work that day. His aunt had packed all her clothes and books and fled without saying goodbye.
The emotional attachment he had with his aunt and the sudden abandonment then caused him some deep emotional damage, which he didn’t even know was there. Once he realised the cause of the issue, he was able to consciously work on it through prayer, making his declaration and talking to his body. When you see how traumatic experiences ruin some people’s lives, you will understand how powerful trauma is and why you have to heal from it in order to live a life devoid of fear.

 Two young people met and wanted to get married. The man had an abusive father who terrorized his mother and the children all their lives. The lady had been raped several times by cousins and uncles and was a mess by the time she clocked eighteen. Their relationship was affected deeply by both their backgrounds, and they had to break up after only two months of being together. When the lady approached me for help and shared what she had been through in life with me, I decided to have a conversation with the young man. After speaking with the young man, I came to the conclusion that neither of them was fit to have any form of relationship until they had exorcised the demons they were both battling within. If you are traumatized as an individual, either from domestic violence, living with people with anger issues, toxicity, and sexual violence of any kind, don’t just sweep it under the carpet. Your best therapist is the Holy Spirit. Find the time to sit with him and have a heart-to-heart conversation. He will heal you completely and repair every form of damage to your psyche and mind.

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 -GSW-