She was 17 when she met him
He was 20
She just gained admission into 100 level
He was in 300 level studying law
She met him at the bank
A microfinance bank inside the school where her parents sent her pocket money
She couldn’t really remember why he was in the bank
He was not on the queue like other students
And he didn’t come with a friend
Perhaps, he was just there (She could have asked him but she didn’t want him to know she didn’t remember, he would tease her forever for forgetting)
Anyway, she liked him
He wore his white and black law student's uniform with dignity
He looked like a friendly person
Somebody she might like to lie down beside and just look at with joy
He didn’t see her though or maybe he pretended not to see her
So she walked up to him and smiled
Her smile could disarm a wounded lion
She had been employing it as an offensive weapon since she was a young lady
It had never failed her
He smiled back
She didn’t say anything
Her words just sort of got lost on the way out of her throat
She could see that he was racking his brains, trying to recollect her face, thinking they had met somewhere before
She liked it
He must be a responsible person for not assuming she simply wanted to be his girlfriend!
She: Hi, you look familiar
He: Are you trying to pick me up? I can’t recollect ever meeting you before
She: I am so and so, a fresh student
He: Oh! I am such and such, 300 level law
He: So how have you been adjusting?
She felt relieved, they were talking now. Surely he would give her his number!
They parted ways
She felt giddy
She was going to have a boyfriend!
A boyfriend of her own choosing!
She called him a few minutes later
Then she called him a few minutes after that
The she called him a few minutes after that
Within the hour she had called twelve times
She was bored and childish
She wanted him to know she was thinking of him
He called her
Asked that they meet in the cafeteria
Asked her to come along with a jotter and a pen
She ran to the cafeteria
He came right on time
He bought her lunch and told her to please write the following things down
1) I will be willing to learn and change for the better, no matter how inconvenient it may be
2) I will never assume anything, I will trust my partner to tell me the truth always
3) I will not bring in previous relationship experiences or assumptions about the way things are supposed to be into this relationship, I agree I am building something unique and even I have never seen it’s like before
4) I will keep my insecurities away from this relationship
5) I will never believe a third party, no matter what the evidence says, I will wait to hear from my beloved always
Then he turned to her and asked her, 'Can you keep to all those rules"
She thought about it
'Yes" I can
Then you can be my girlfriend!
She didn’t say anything. He was issuing a statement she completely agreed with!
They were the best couple on campus
Her friends always call her 'Instructed lover'
Because she kept to those instructions with all her might
When people were talking about their relationships and gossiping about other student's relationships (She keeps her mouth shut)
And as a consequence, nobody asked her about her own relationship
Those who asked were met with icy silence
She owed no allegiance to anybody but her beloved
Her man was very caring, he paid attention to her and they worked harmoniously to build their own little world
All the campus magazines and newsletters mentioned them in their gossip column
Their relationship was platonic, he was determined to keep his virginity till he got married
She was all in for anything he wanted
Though she was a virgin too, she couldn’t care less if they waited or rushed. As long as they have each other!
In his final year, a lady started paying him undue attention
The lady was his friend in secondary school
Had been to the polytechnic for OND
And became a student of their school through Direct Entry
He helped the lady settle in through her first two weeks
But then the lady wouldn’t move on
Whenever they were together, the lady would call him asking for a meet
Most times her man would ignore
But sometimes she would walk into the cafeteria and see the two of them eating and talking
She knew he wasn’t cheating but her roommates were beginning to do those "silent treatment" thing
That thing they do when they are projecting a break-up or a bust-up between couples
She called her man, what is happening?
He said nothing.
Her man travelled home for the weekend
She didn’t see the lady on campus throughout that same weekend
Her roommate returned from home and said she saw them
She waited at the school gate that Sunday evening knowing he would return
The lady arrived first
Alone and in a hurry
She hid her face behind her novel, just didn’t feel like greeting her
Two hours later, her man arrived
He hugged her
She walked him to his hostel
He went in dropped his bags and came out to meet her
They went to the cafeteria
He bought her some goodies
She was afraid to ask him the question
If she did and he lied to her it means the problem would never go away
If she did and he told her the truth that he was with the lady for the weekend it also means the problem will never go away
If he wasn’t with her and she raised the question, he would be very disappointed and he would take offence
She watched him, observed him
Where was the crack?
He wasn’t too happy or sad
He didn’t look guilty or relieved
He didn’t look nervous or anxious
He was just himself
She: I saw that lady, so and so, at the gate while i was waiting for you
He looked at her, looked right into her eyes and said "I was with her throughout the weekend"'
She almost fainted.
How could he state it so calmly, and matter of factly, without any remorse.
Was he a serial killer?
"She was my girlfriend for two years in secondary school, he continued,
Her parents were against our relationship
Her parents were from a particular Christian denomination where members are strongly encouraged to marry only within the same denomination, and when they fall sick, they do not as a matter of faith use drugs or go to the hospital
My parents are from a Christian denomination where you can use drugs, go to the hospital and marry anybody you love
It was a crazy period of unnecessary ego tussle
We both gained admission to this school to study law the same year
When her parents realized I was also in this school, they took her to the polytechnic in order to separate us
We had to part ways when her father insisted he would disown her if we didn’t
Her father monitored her like a hawk until she got into a relationship in their church and married the man last year
It was because she was married that she was allowed to come to this school
I can never marry her
She is not a threat to you
But I owe her...No, she and I owe her parents that "Go to hell" weekend
It was closure
I promise you!
It is out of our system now
It is totally out!''
She ought to be mad! She ought to walk away! She ought to hate him! But strangely, she understood!!!
He graduated a year later
She and the lady became good friends
She also graduated the following year
Three years later, they got married
Her husband has loved her and only her for 7 years
She had never had even a minute to doubt of faithfulness
She wondered if this would have been the case if he didn’t exorcise that demon haunting him with the lady
They have two children