She: Men do not truly appreciate what women go through during pregnancy
The body becomes big and bloated, her hormones go into an overdrive, she sacrifices her beauty to bear his children
No woman should have to go through that sacrifice for any man just to bear him children
Him: I agree. Why don’t we shelve the baby thing completely?
I am fine without children
All I want is to be with you
She: Nooo! I want children. It has always been my dream to have two children and you cannot talk me out of it
Him: I feel we should keep your body intact so that you don’t have to change in any way
I mean, why go through such a sacrifice when you can just enjoy a baby girl life of ease as my wife
She: No. (Gets angry) Why are you doing this? I asked you if you wanted children and you said you did
Suddenly, now you are trying to wriggle your way out of it
Don’t give me a reason to break up with you
The children thing is a deal breaker for me
Him: I am sorry. How many children do you want again?
She: It is not how many children I want, it is how many children do we want?
I love you and I want children of my own!”
I hear conversations like the one above constantly
It is a modern day toxic feminism theme which tries to magnify natural roles played by a gender and denigrate the natural role played by the other gender just for the sake of making an argument out of nothing
The family as a unit makes babies and nurtures them naturally
No gender’s sacrifice is greater than that of the other in the process
Children play a vital role in helping many ladies secure their place in their husband’s life as “wife” regardless of the religion or culture of the couple
Children also play a vital role in helping many men find fulfilment in life
While the man may not be the one carrying the baby in his body, he is surely the one carrying the baby and the mother on his mind
It is true that there are some irresponsible men and ladies out there who would not provide or appreciate their partners for the sacrifices both sides must make to build a home
Such folks are not in the majority
For most men, a pregnant wife means more work so as to make more money
They pray and worry constantly
Some men would gladly carry the pregnancy if they are given the opportunity but God in His infinite wisdom gave the privilege to the women folk so that while they do this, their man would be able to do the more required to provide, protect and pamper
The desire to have children is shared by both genders with ladies especially sold on the reality of bearing children as a validation of their motherhood
We should not then make it seem as if the burden is borne by one and not the other
A pregnant wife is usually a double pregnancy for the husband
He carries her and the infant in her everywhere he goes!