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Everybody said he would change
"He will adjust when he meets a
good girl from a good home"
He will curb his excesses as
soon as he started facing 
responsibilities!
"You can't teach anybody the 
reality called life!
Life is a tough teacher
Life will bend him"
It wasn't as if he was a serial killer
He just had a particular way
he believed life should be lived!
He was handsome, very handsome
He had a good sense of dressing
Some even consider him a fob
Ladies love him
Oh how they flock to him in droves 
He worked with a marketing firm
He was their best earner
Ladies would mortgage their father's 
houses to get his attention
It is both biological and natural
He was that fine
He had things easy
Even when he was in the university
Ladies cooked, cleaned, washed..
Ladies did everything for him
His bank account was always
loaded courtesy of ladies competing 
for his attention
There was a time he lost count of
the number of girls he slept with
in a year
He just couldn't keep track
Many tried to hook him down
Make him their prize
But he was too smart for that
Once he saw that the feeling 
was waning and common sense
was beginning to take over, he
would politely walk away!
He was everybody's man
His longest relationship lasted
three weeks!
He hated the sense of being
owned and all the implied rules!
He got a job without any stress
His look was an asset
His first job was with a tourism
outfit
He did so well that he won trips
to many countries of the world
due to his performance
This enhanced his profile
He was now an "international"
brand!
He had a lot of friends
They all kept the same lifestyle
They dated the hottest girls, night crawled, 
spent hard and partied 
wild!
His mother didn't know what to do
with him
She would say "You are using a 
blessing like a curse! God blessed
you with good looks and you are using it 
to waste your life and the
lives of others!"
He only laughed at his mother's
tantrums 
Once he got married, the benefits of 
being single would be gone!
Seventy percent of the ladies flocking 
around him did so in
the hope that he would marry them!
Why would he lose that advantage!
When he clocked thirty
He noticed that most of his friends
started settling down
He was happy for them
That was the pattern of life for the
ordinary people
He was Adonis
Adonis cannot go down the path
of mere men
He also noticed a trend
The number of ladies flocking around
him began to reduce
Some of the ladies got married
others traveled! People moved
on!
Somehow he found himself alone
A spent force!
It was as if the aura of comeliness
lifted off him
It was very tough
The younger ladies he met didn't 
worship him
They were down for the sex but
they had no interest whatsoever
in treating him like a demigod!
It was as if he had fallen off his
throne
It affected him badly
He became grumpy and disillusioned
It affected his job
When his bosses protested
He resigned!
He didn't want to be treated
like he was not the star staff!
He was a star!
After he resigned, money became
an issue
He tried setting up his own marketing outfit
The problem was discipline
He wanted to party and club and 
spend big and at the same time
grow a business
He saw settling down to normal
life as an acceptance of his limitations
He fell into depression
He would rather be sick than
accept that he was no longer a
big boy!
He was that childish!
Eventually, he met a lady
She came from a rich background
(This was very important to him)
She had studied abroad and didn't
really know his reputation
They started dating
She knew he was going through
a rough patch
She didnt mind footing the bills
and keeping his ego inflated
He proposed marriage to her
after a year
She said "Yes"
He set up the proposal like a
carnival of sorts
It was his comeback event!
He did it at Karaoke Night
Sheraton Hotel
he invited all his old friends
Single and married
It was a blast
Two months after the engagement
His babe started taking the
marriage talk seriously
"We can't keep spending like this"
"We can't keep painting the town
red"
"We have to save for rainy day"
"If you want to spend like that,
foot the bill yourself"
What!
She was trying to control his life
She was trying to kill his mojo
Because he gave her a ring
She was acting like his mother
One evening he went to her
house to pick her
A friend of his just returned home
from the UK and was throwing a
party at Quilox
He wanted desperately to show
her off
Let the guys see his prized asset
She said she was not going
"Wearing skimpy gowns and
high heels in order to get into a
club is no longer my thing! 
I am not girl anymore! Please go if 
you want to go but count me out!"
He was shocked
He pleaded with her till 11pm
She wouldn't budge
He left her house in anger
As he drove out of her estate
He saw a lady with a flat tyre
They had dated briefly before
and parted ways when it seemed
she would forever be in the shadow
He parked and helped her
fix her car
He told her where he was going
She was heading back home from 
the office
She followed him to the club
She had some clothes she just
bought in the car
She followed him to the club
She changed in the ladies
She just needed a break from her
monotonous life
Something exciting for a change
They had a great time at the'club
She followed him home
They made love
She left for her office from his
place the next morning
He came to her office around 
noon
They had lunch
She told him she was too old
to be anybody's girlfriend
She was 34 already
He was 38!
She had no regrets about the
sex but they cannot pretend
it is relationship
If he wanted to walk away he
should
Otherwise he should make a commitment
He said "okay"
He broke up with his girlfriend
When he told her, she didnt
say anything
That evening, she packed some
clothes and moved into his flat
She had played the waiting game
She had been patient
She needed to take the bull by the
horn
Two months later she was confirmed 
pregnant 
He really couldn't protest
She was making the money
and practically feeding him
She was also keeping him in the
lifestyle he desired
She told him they would have
to get married
He agreed
They had their introduction
and got married on a Thursday
at Ikoyi registry
In all, they had ten people in 
attendance!
They had their honeymoon in
Ikoyi
They were supposed to settle
down to married life
But not him!
He was still behaving like a boy
Asking her for "this and that"
Expecting her to cater for all the
needs of the home
All he wanted to do was party
and club and be a fine boy!
She delivered her baby
SHe paid for the delivery all by 
herself
She paid the rent
SHe stocked the house with
foodstuff
It was so bad
He couldn't go out without asking
her for money for fuel
Her mother came to help
her with the baby
Her mother noticed how he
conducted himself
Her mother freaked out
"Stop enabling him! Once you have
started this way, that is how your
marriage will be forever"
She had reasoned along that line
But she changed immediately
her mother spoke
He saw the change and took
offence
He said her mother came to turn
her heart against him
He left the house and didn't
return
He went to his family house
He said he needed to clear his
head
She didn't know what to do
Write him off as a bad cheque and
become a single mother
or take him back on his terms and
continue to feed the beast!
She reached out to the Brother
in Jeans and T-shirt
The Brother in Jeans and T-shirt
called him
They had a meeting
He told the brother in Jeans and T-shirt 
he wanted to commit suicide
His wife's mother had killed his
marriage
The Brother in Jeans and T-shirt
laughed and said "You need a job,
you need somewhere to go in the 
morning, you need to be able to 
fuel your own car and fen for your
own baby!
Stop playing victim!
Nobody ruined your marriage
You didn't have what it takes to
be a husband!
He said he had dreams and plans
but his wife's mother didn't allow
his wife to fund the dreams
The Brother in Jeans and T-shirt
said "If you had been a responsible
man, no one would be able to come
in between you and your wife!"
He agreed!
The Brother in Jeans and T-shirt
prayed with him
He received Jesus Christ as His
Lord and Saviour
He got filled with the Holy Spirit
and with tears streaming down
his face started praying in tongues
Two weeks later
He got a job with a diesel supply
company
At the end of the first month,
he sent some money for the 
baby's food and support
By the end of the third month
his wife's mother left
His wife called him and asked him
to come back home
His ego was all that had kept
him away
He was a changed man but was
still hurt by her sudden change
He went back home a changed 
man!
PS: A fool at forty is not a fool
forever with Jesus
The day Jesus came into the home
of Zaccheus was the day
salvation came there
The gospel will change anybody
who yields to it!
Is your home on fire?
Turn to the gospel
Turn to Jesus
Do so today?