The Seven Places You Don’t Want To Be As A Successful Man in Your Forties

1) Single: Unless you have resolved not to get married, it is not advisable for you to be single and unmarried in your forties.
The disadvantages are numerous, but one of them is the fact that you will have less time to grow with your children and teach them all they need to know about life.
The second is also about children; you don’t want to be paying school fees into your sixties
The third one is also about children; you need strength to cope with them. That strength comes from your youthfulness. Once you get to a certain age, you can only have them, but others will have to do the “coping” with them because of the disparity in the levels of energy and time.
The fourth one on children, you want to be young enough to understand their language and the context of the society they are born into, so that you can guide them properly. Society is always evolving, and cultures are always changing from generation to generation.
Sometimes the generational gap is too much for one to cope with and this becomes a challenge as you try to raise your children to fit into society

2) Broke: There is never a good time to be broke, but coping with being broke and trying to earn a living in your late teens and early twenties is understandable. At that age, you are still trying to find your feet and may be experimenting with this and that on your way to building a career or a business.
To be broke in your forties means you have lived two-thirds or half of your life without any proof of mastery of money.
It is not too late to make something of your life at forty, but once you enter this stage broke, it becomes a bit difficult to find pathways to navigate into financial freedom.
Getting a job becomes more difficult, learning a skill becomes more difficult, and having the time to master anything while coping with bills and expenses makes it a pressure cooker situation.

3) Divorced and Successful: Being broke and unmarried or divorced is more understandable at this age. But if you are a man and you are financially stable and successful in your career and business, you don’t want to be divorced at this age.
Everything you can do to keep your marriage, outside of paying for it with your life, must be done.
Why?
You will be hunted.
Single ladies and divorced ladies in their twenties, thirties, forties, and even fifties will come for you with a vengeance
It is not an experience you will enjoy, and if you are not careful, it will lead to you marrying the wrong person, who only wanted you out of desperation.

4) Indebted: Owing lots of money to loan apps and companies is never a good place to be for an individual. I understand when companies say they use other people’s funds to build their businesses, but for an individual, you must never buy into this philosophy.
By the time you hit forty, you must have investments outside of your pension contribution.
You must have one or two passive sources of income (established), and if you can, you may get involved in a few start-ups just for the fun of it.
If being broke is not a place to be, being indebted is a worse way to go as you step into your forties.

5) Chasing Skirts: A man chasing skirts is proof of instability. Sleeping around and waking up beside strangers in strange hotels and beds is a sign of a life that is disorganized and irresponsible.
While this lifestyle is not advisable for any right-thinking person, it is especially a pointer to a dim future for men in their forties.
Some men get married, have a family (stability), and then dabble into side chickism or other forms of situationships by the side due to the availability of resources and sometimes boredom or restlessness.
This leaves a terrible mark on their family when they are eventually discovered.
It is not good to leave a legacy of indiscipline and weakness for your children.
Whatever decision you have to make regarding choosing a life partner, make it in your twenties or at the latest in your thirties. By the time you clock forty, you must be as stable as an anchor.

6) Godless: It is understandable if a man’s soul searched for God while questioning his belief system and life in his twenties.
Eternity was woven in the fabrics of our realities for that reason
The knowledge of God is, however, a path that many who came before us had followed with detailed information on how the path is and what we must do to seek enlightenment and find a place of rest for our souls.
These must be done early so that when you come into your forties, you will know your God and walk in exploits.
The longer it takes for you to know God, the less time you have to master this knowledge and harness it to your advantage.

7) Separated From Your Family: A lot of people in their forties will suddenly come into these opportunities to travel abroad. If you have this opportunity, you can take it as long as it does not require you to leave your family behind.
If you get separated from your family in your forties, there is a huge likelihood that you will lose your family.
Your children will end up being raised by another, and your wife will end up being loved by another or getting estranged from you.
The family dynamics, as with any other human relationship, rely on being present and registered in the consciousness of the team for one to make any serious impact.
Being an absent father will lead to a vacuum in your relationship with your children and your wife.

-GSW-