Bestie I

The first red flag was the way he 
kept including his bestie in his 
conversation while he was asking her out! 
It was not funny at all 
He insinuated that it was his bestie 
that encouraged him to forget the pains 
and heartbreaks of the past and go into 
relationship again! 
She got it
He told her that his bestie was the 
only one who had always been there for 
him through thick and thin! 
They had known each other for over 
thirteen years and could hardly go 
through a day without talking to each 
other! 
His bestie meant a lot to him 
He made that very very clear!
She didn’t like it 
She had never liked the idea of 
another woman in her man’s life 
apart from his mother and sisters 
Women are the most unfair to other 
women when it comes to the men 
they care about! 
She didn’t need another woman setting 
standards for her with her man! 
She really didn’t like the idea and 
she made that obvious! 
He told her he would tone it down 
And he did! 
He stopped mentioning his bestie’s 
this and his bestie said that every 
five minutes! 
He respected her opinion and cut the 
conversation between him and his bestie 
to a barest minimum
She knew there was nothing untoward 
between them, she just didn’t want her 
man having a bestie! 
Her man got it! 
Her man had been chasing her for a 
relationship for almost two years before 
she agreed to be with him! 
He was everything she wanted in a man 
and she took her time to be sure it 
wouldn’t end in tears. 
Apart from the “bestie” thing, 
he was an industrious young man who 
had his life figured out! 
He had a definite plan towards settling 
down, he had money saved, he was 
gainfully employed, he didn’t have 
family members draining his resources...
They met through a friend 
Things started slowly but he knew 
what he wanted! She was sure he was 
her man! 
She prayed about it and all the stars 
were aligned 
They had a three-year plan to get married! 
#She was also gainfully employed 
Within six months, his language had 
changed
The bestie was no longer featuring at all! 
According to him, he met the bestie 
during a very difficult period in his life! 
He was in Germany with 
His mother at the time. 
His mother had died in a car crash and 
he attempted to commit suicide as a result. 
His bestie was part of the team sent by their 
“Nigerian” church they were attending in 
Germany at the time 
That was how they became friends! 
She got it But nothing lasts forever! 
He explained her “stand” to his bestie 
She expected his bestie to understand, 
after all, they were both women!
It was fine
He stopped calling his bestie for several 
months 
They made giant strides in their marital plans 
They picked certain dates and started 
meeting with family members 
They also rented a bigger apartment 
His father sent him some money to support 
their wedding plans 
She was so happy
They had started marriage counseling session 
His bestie graduated and returned home 
He told her and asked her if he could go 
and see her 
(They had not seen each other for about 
nine years) 
She encouraged him to go 
He went 
Then he had to go with the bestie to Abuja 
for a document
Then he had to stay in Abuja for two weeks to 
process the document 
At first he called very often 
The he rarely called 
Then she started calling 
Then he stopped picking her calls 
She didn’t know what happened
 It was like rowing a boat into the middle 
of the ocean and losing the
Paddle! 
She was stranded! 
The next thing she saw was a picture of 
their wedding at a registry in Abuja 
He had married his bestie! 
He sent her a message on the morning of 
his wedding 
He said he was sorry it had to end that
 way but he had to follow his heart! 
He was very very sorry
He never returned to Lagos 
She never saw him again 
After the wedding, he and his bestie 
went off to Ghana for their honeymoon 
From there they both returned to Germany
(He was a citizen) 
He left her 
He left his job 
His properties 
Everything!!!
His bestie was obviously worth 
much more

PS: This story was dropped by the lady 
whose fiancé ran off with his bestie! 
She wanted to know what I think 
about her plight 

I can say this! 
Human nature is the most consistent thing 
in the world 
We make wrong choices and run away 
from consequences all the time! 
It’s who we are...