Judah had a daughter in-law, Tamar.
Her husband, Judah’s son had died,
so she was a widow.
Judah’s wife died a while later.
He went to Timmath with a friend.
When Tamar heard where her father in-law
was, she changed her clothes, wore a
veil and went to the same place.
Judah saw her and thought she was
He bargained with her and she agreed
to sleep with him for a fee: a young goat.
He gave her a pledge of his staff, bracelet
and signet ring pending when he would
redeem the goat.
She disappeared after they slept together.
When he sent the goat, she was nowhere
to be found.
Three months later, Judah was told Tamar
He was angry!
He passed a judgment: “Bring her out, let
her be burned!”
He wanted her roasted alive!
That was the punishment Judah felt
was fitting for the crime.
Tamar was brought out as Judah asked.
But before she was set on fire, she
brought out the staff, signet ring
and bracelet: “I was impregnated by
the owner of these stuff!”
Judah recognized them.
He realized she was the woman he slept
with a few months ago.
He changed the judgment.
But imagine if it was another man
responsible for the pregnancy?
(Genesis Chapter 38)
Prophet Nathan came to see King David.
He told the King a story: there were two
men living in a city: one rich, the other
The rich had lots of cattle and livestock,
the poor had just one lamb who he
treated like a child.
Now, the rich man had a visitor and to
entertain him, he decided to take the
lamb of the poor man (rather than take
one from his own livestock) to feed his
When David heard this story, he was angry!
He said, “Whoever did this MUST DIE!
He must restore that lamb four times
because he has no pity!”
That was the judgment David felt was
commensurate to the crime committed.
Nathan then said: “YOU ARE THE MAN!”
Now, should we carry out the
David said, “I have sinned!”
He went on to write Psalm 51, asking
for God’s mercy.
But imagine if it were another man?
David would have carried out his
judgment of death. But he expected
God to have mercy on him!
(2nd Samuel Chapter 12)
Jesus told us a story of a man who
owed his boss.
He pleaded for mercy because he
could not pay it.
The boss pitied him and wrote off
Same man also had someone owing
him a fraction of what he owed the
boss who also pleaded for mercy.
He refused and got him arrested and
He owed and begged for mercy.
But he was unwilling to show mercy
to his own debtors.
(Matthew Chapter 18: 23-35)
Humans naturally have two standards:
one for others and one for themselves.
These three scenarios show that.
Self preservation makes us judge
ourselves differently from others.
We judge others by their actions but
judge ourselves by our motives and
We cut ourselves some slack but are
not willing to cut for others.
I watched an interesting video a
Jane Elliot (a white woman) was in an
auditorium filled with white folks.
She asked, “How many of you white
folks will want to be treated the way
our society treat black people?
Nobody stood up.
She said, “Maybe you don’t understand me.
If you white folks won’t mind being
treated the way black people are generally
treated in our society, stand up.”
Nobody stood up.
She concluded by saying: “That says
very plainly you KNOW what is happening.
You KNOW you don’t want it for YOU.
I wanna know why you’re so willing to
accept it and to allow it to happen for
I also listened to a radio program where
the host asked, “What is your take on
People called in, saying they have
nothing against them.
Then the host would ask, “Would
you allow YOUR daughter partake
in one?” Ironically, all those who had
nothing against Beauty Pageants
The host concluded, “I guess Beauty
Pageants are ok- as long as it’s
someone else’s daughter partaking in it!”
Our Christianity and Humanity MUST
go beyond this.
We have to learn to view life through
We have to be deliberate and intentional
If it is not good for you, it cannot be good
for anyone else.
God loves us all EQUALLY.
He is not closer to anyone more than
We all have equal access to Him, equal
opportunities, equal standing.
The difference is, some folks maximise and
utilise their access more than others.
But He does not discriminate on gender,
race, tribe or citizenship.
We have to rise up to see people the way
God sees us all.
It is very unfortunate when parents
(who are Christian) refuse their children
marry someone because of differences
in tribe or race.
It is disheartening when people are
refused employment, tenancy or services,
when people are stereotyped based on
these factors they have no control over.
I did not choose to be a man, I did not
choose to be black, I did not choose
to be a Northern Nigerian:
Why should anyone hold these against me?
God does not do that, why should you?
If you were at the receiving end of such
discrimination, how would you feel?
We CAN do better!