Finding Balance

She didn't understand her husband 
It was frustrating 
It was unnerving 
Being married to a man who concedes 
the lead all the time 
She was ambitious, driven, she had a lot of things she wanted to achieve A lot of things she wanted them to achieve together But he seemed demotivated!
He did the very least that could be done 
and seemed contented with it!
 They both earn very well 
He worked in the construction industry
 She was a banker, a branch manager 
Between them, they ought to be a power couple 
Setting records of achievements every other 
month in every area
But they weren't! 
He wasn't irresponsible 
He was just so contented with "little"! 
She tried to talk to him 
Push him 
Motivate him 
Talk to him 
Nothing worked! 
He kept asking her what else she wanted
They had millions in their life savings account
The children's education fund was intact
They live in an estate on the Lagos mainland
They had three good cars
But to her they were nothing
Families are living in Parkview estate
Families are living in Ikoyi
Families owned properties all over the
world
What was he talking about?
The discontent in her heart made her resent him 
She hated the fact that he set the bar so low
 They could be so much more!
 "Take a loan and start a business by the side 
and let me do the same
 Let us double our income 
We should be living in a certain estate, 
driving a certain sort of cars 
Moving with a certain sort of people 
Going for summer every year 
Can't you see that everyone around us 
are doing so much better?"
He always acted as if she was talking rubbish 
Sometimes he would keep quiet and watch her rant, 
when she was done, he would turn his back 
on her and sleep off as if he had only 
listened out of politeness 
It bothered her seriously
 They were not poor but they could 
be super rich!
She decided one day to teach him a lesson 
Make him take her seriously 
She packed her bags and left the house 
She felt their union needed to be renegotiated 
He was taking her feelings for granted, 
denying her access to her utopia, 
lackadaisical about her earnest heart desires
It was as if he was waiting for her to move 
He didn't call her phone 
He didn't try to reach out to her 
He was as unmotivated to bring her back 
home as he was about everything else 
She couldn't believe it 
She felt as if she was nothing to him 
Just a shadow that passed by his life
Her pride stung her badly 
She refused to go back home 
He kept telling people he didn't send
her packing and she can return home
whenever she so desired
He got a househelp to help him cope 
with the children 
She picked her children from school 
every day, dropped them at his house
 or took them to her new apartment 
He didn't bother either way 
He was just going along with the flow
A year went by, two years 
Sometimes she slept over at his place 
Sometimes he would wait for the children 
to sleep and drive down to her apartment 
They had their conjugal often 
He never complained for a day 
She also found herself getting comfortable 
with the arrangement
She had more thinking room 
She started the second business in her 
apartment's sitting room! 
The distance from the children gave 
her time to do other things 
She bought that dream car 
She even bought a house within 5 years! 
She went wherever she wanted without 
"hubby's" shadow
His "low bar" was no longer a barrier for her
 She was soaring 
She travelled for summer in 2014 for two weeks 
By the time she returned they were gone 
Her husband and her three children 
They relocated to Canada 
Her husband mentioned the plan to her 
but she didn't take him serious
Was she supposed to leave her empire 
and relocate? No way! 
She had struck gold! 
They would have to find a way around it!
 She liked the idea It was the most ambitious 
thing her husband ever did! 
And it is in line with the practises of those 
around her It enhanced her status
It took her twenty months to put things in
 order and obtain a visa to Canada 
She planned to make it up to the family 
by spending three months 
When she got to Cagliari, she met a shocker! 
Her husband was MARRIED to her last 
child's class teacher! 
They relocated as a family!
He had obtained a divorce from her on 
grounds of desertion for three years 
He got married and planned the relocation
 under her nose 
Men are so slimy! 
She tried to reason with him but he 
was a stranger 
He had changed! 
He related with her somehow oddly, 
as if she was an outsider!
She returned home 
She didn't know how she felt... 
Demotivated, lonely, betrayed, 
deserted, frustrated and abandoned! 
Her children had taken to their new 
mother with joy 
She saw it! 
Nothing made sense 
Friends and family members sympathized 
with her 
But she knew they blamed her
She had to start afresh 
At forty-six 
She had a duplex and two luxurious cars 
She went looking for love but all she
 found was lust 
The men she me expected her to pay 
for the sex one way or another... 
She shared her story with the 
Brother in Jeans and T-shirt, 
hoping for a miracle!

PS: When I posted this thread on twitter
it sparked a controversy
That was not my intention
I shared it to keep us aware
of the need for a balance
A little too much to the right
or to the left and everything
would become lopsided
This event happened in Lagos,
and Cagliari 2017