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A mother had three daughters

The first had an abortion at 19 and lost her womb

Of course, she engaged the services of a quack doctor because she dared not let her parents know she got pregnant

It was a shameful thing that would bring her parents shame in the church and society

It would also definitely disrupt her education and advancement in life.

The man responsible for the pregnancy was actually still a teenager like her; it was a teen love thing, and the two of them were so lost in their puppy love world of wonders that they didn't consider the consequence of all the "touch me here and touch me there" they were doing when they got to the "explore my body that I may understand myself better" stage of the relationship

When it suddenly struck them that his fishing expeditions into her body had gotten her pregnant, all he did was cry like a baby

He didn't know what to do

All his manliness and macho dissolved into nothing

She realised she had to take responsibility for her own life at that point and began to make enquiries about getting the buns out of her oven

Eventually, she learnt about a doctor who would do it for cheap

She raised the money and did it

It ruined her chances of having a child for life

The second daughter was born with a hormonal condition that has prevented her from menstruating since she hit puberty

A lot of money has been spent on hormonal therapy without much gains

This leaves her

The last girl 

She was brilliant, as healthy as a fiddle and beautiful

She started her career at the age of twenty, and by the age of thirty, she was sitting shoulder to shoulder with the heavy lifters of her industry in various conference rooms

Her career was very important to her

She had little or no time for relationships

She considered emotional entanglements a distraction

She did this until she was in her mid-thirties

Then their father died, and all the children and their mother had to go through the burial process

After the burial, the will was read, and in it, their father stated clearly that the only regret he had was not attending the wedding of any of his children or having a grandchild through them, even though he died at the age of seventy

He asked his daughters to please ensure that their mother didn't die with the same regrets

He left a befitting inheritance for them and words of encouragement

Their father's will hit her like a mission statement

She told herself she will support her sisters to do all they can to get married and have children

She sponsored the sister with hormonal issues to New York to meet with specialists so that whatever ought to be rectified could be done to cure her of her health issue

The other sister who lost her womb was encouraged to adopt a baby 

Both sisters didn't argue with her

The one who ought to adopt a baby went through the process, and four years later, her hope was crushed by the agency because she was not married and had not been able to hold down a job or a business all her life

She was born rich and practically lived her life pursuing pleasure and a soft life

The other sister with the hormonal issues didn't make any headway too, despite the humongous amount of money spent to correct her hormonal issues

She had never experienced such failures before in her life

Four years of heavy investments on two fronts and both ends came up with nothing

It affected her badly

She sank into depression

Their mother was four years older than when she started out trying to fulfil her father's will.

Their mother had since developed some health complications like hypertension, arthritis, some memory issues and so on.

Which they are managing as she grows closer to seventy

It was too overwhelming for her

She took a two-week break from work to pray and make a firm decision regarding the future

She turned to God and said, "If you don't intervene in issues like this, then what good are you? If you don't consider my father's wish important enough for you to wade in, then why did he serve you so earnestly all his life?

I will choose another religion or become an atheist if you don't do something

My mother is sick at the age of 69, and all she wants is to see her daughters get married and for her to carry her child children.

You are doing this for unbelievers; why are you denying us these basic things that you give everybody?

Why would my oldest sister be denied the right to adopt a baby, and you give children to child molesters?

Why would my other sister be sick with this strange disease, and you refused to heal her despite all the funds we sunk into her therapy?

What kind of a God keeps mute at the suffering of his children?

She kept these dark thoughts going in her head until she came to the conclusion that it was best for her to commit suicide.

She didn't know how she got there, but she did

She began to think of the most effective and painless way to do it

She picked up her phone and ordered some things she believed she would need

They arrived at her doorstep a few hours later

She decided it was the best decision for her and the family at large

She had failed to fulfil her father's wish, and God had failed to show up for her family

She couldn't bear to see her mother suffering and her sisters unfulfilled

The best decision was to end it all!

Just as she started working on executing this decision, her phone rang

She picked it

It was from her mother

Her mother sent him a phone number and asked her to call the number urgently

She decided to call the number as a matter of granting her mother's last wish to her before she ending it all

She called

The person picked

she introduced herself

The person introduced himself

She said, "My mummy sent me your number and asked me to call you."

The person said, "Your mummy said she had a terrible dream that you died; she said it was so real that she was not sure if she was dreaming or experiencing it in reality until she woke up in a panic."

She said, "Ha, mummy was right"

The person said, "You were planning to end it all."

She said, "Yes", and then she began to tell her story and all the frustrations she had been enduring all her life

She spoke for three hours

The person then asked her why, in all her talk, she didn't mention getting married or trying to have children

She kept quiet

The person asked her again, "You said your daddy has three daughters, two of them have issues having children, but you don't. 

You are a beautiful young woman who made the choice to face her career and never get married or have children. Your father didn't put you under pressure, and neither did your mother or siblings. You listened to your father's will and decided to do something about it, but that thing you decided to do was not to put yourself out there, get married and have children to solve the problem.

It was to push others towards it while you remained immovable on your principles

You are unwilling to produce life with your body, but you are willing to take your own life to spite God for not answering your prayers.

Did I summarise what is going on correctly?

She kept quiet at first; then she said, "I never saw it that way."

He said, "That is the problem of being short-sighted. Short-sighted people lack both foresight and hindsight. They neither learn from their past nor see into their future. They take a principle and stick to it like stones, forgetting that human beings are more like water. We must adapt, or we will die!"

She said, "I get your point now, sir. I admit that I have been short-sighted; I have outsourced solutions that I have the power and ability to procure, and I am complaining about not meeting my target. I will adjust."

Then she said, "I have spoken with many pastors in my life, and they all usually will say "let me pray for you or sow a seed into my life or my ministry for your breakthrough. It got so bad that I stopped going to church when my pastor said he knew how much I earned in pounds and since I didn't have a husband or a child, he did not understand why I was not giving fifty per cent of my income to the church to encourage the work of God since I will die and strangers will end up inheriting everything I have. This was why I stopped going to church

It was not the first time a pastor will say that to me or insinuate it, but you spoke to me like a brother or even a father

All frank and dispassionate, and I appreciate that

God bless you, sir.

They rang off

A month later, she called him with the good news that she was pregnant

He rejoiced with her

Nine months later, she delivered a set of triplets

He shouted "Glory.!"

He named the baby in a very close family affair on Zoom

The lady, her two sisters and their mother were the only attendees

Her mother and two sisters moved to Manchester to help her nurse the babies as soon as she got close to her due date

Three months after the babies were born, her sister, who was plagued with hormonal issues, began to see her period naturally and without any medical intervention at the age of 39 after attending the GSWMI prophetic service held on the first Wednesday of February 2023

She also got pregnant a few weeks later and delivered a set of twins on December 17, 2023, in Manchester

They moved into a bigger apartment as a family

Their mother, now 71 years old

Her three daughters, aged 42, 40 and 38 and the five grandchildren (Three boys and two girls)

Her mother is happy and healthier; her sisters are fulfilled (The oldest has taken to caring for the children as her own and is absolutely enjoying the role without any reservation.

Their mother is a bit frail, so she can't do much running around, but she instructs

She goes to work, and so does her sister, with their minds at rest that their children are in safe hands

Her father's will was fulfilled, and they have another generation in the family to nurture and raise with the right values.

PS: If you are wondering if a process was skipped deliberately in the testimony shared above, you will be right

It is not a traditional story that many of us are used to

It is, however, a true story.

I was the "Person" she spoke with on the day she wanted to commit suicide

When it comes to preserving a family's legacy and the generations to come, the Bible shows us the lengths God is willing to go

Take, for example, Lot and his daughters; the short-sighted folks will see everything wrong with it

The girls got their father drunk, so he didn't sleep with them knowingly, and they got pregnant as a result

Lot didn't make a habit of sleeping with his daughters for fun or leisure

His daughters did what was done to preserve his bloodline

It happened to Judah, too

He slept with his daughter-in-law just once (She pretended to be a prostitute, so he didn't do it knowingly), and it was to preserve the coming generation

Naomi's two sons and husband died. She was too old to have a husband or a baby, but she had a daughter-in-law who could help her redeem her lineage, and she took that opportunity to do so through Boaz

She knew Boaz's first son through Ruth belonged to her husband and would bear her husband's name and carry on his legacy.

Yet you see believers in 2024 frowning on ladies who chose to do IVF in order to secure the coming generations.

I heard of a pastor who told a 45-year-old single lady that doing IVF would be like "helping God".

When Abraham helped himself by having Ishmael instead of waiting for the promised child, God didn't take any offence.

It was Sarah who took offence and sent the woman and her child away

The first time this was done, an angel appeared to Hagar and told her to go back home because she ran away by herself due to the wicked way she was treated by Sarah but the second time Sarah made Abraham send her away and this time, since it was Abraham that sent away, it remained so.