Juliet Must Die
There's this guy have been dating for
like 10 years now.
The journey in between those years
has been like a roller coaster ride.
More sadness than happiness
The truth is so many awful things have
happened that I am so embarrassed to
share it with anyone.
This is one of the reasons why I didn't
send you a message all this while
As much as I regret every bit of it, I
caused it too
I think I will have to tell you the story
so you will understand.
Sorry I messaged you so late this night.
I'm just at the point where I'm about to
give up on everything
I met him when he came to check on
someone in my hostel back in school.
It was towards the end of my pre-degree
programme in school.
I was a virgin when I met him even though
I have been a little careless with guys but
I remained a virgin.
We started going out and I later became
We went to a dinner party one night in
school and I couldn't go back to my
So I had to go to his hostel.
He asked for sex but I told him No
Told him I wasn't ready because I
wanted to have it with the person
I will get married to, like my sisters did
(I wanted to be like them).
After that night, nothing happened until
he saw a guy's text message on my
He got angry and also one of his friends
told him I gave another guy attention.
Then I had to start begging him to
I went to his hostel that night to beg
him and I had to sleep over.
That was when it happened.
And because of the vow I made that
I will only sleep with my future husband.
He automatically became the guy I
wanted to spend my life with.
Our love became strong that I couldn't
go a day without talking to him.
All my friends knew him but none of
my family members knew about him
or that I was even in a relationship.
We were strong like that till when I
got a full admission and resumed
I had a best friend that became my
roommate in school.
My boyfriend started visiting me in
my hostel and sometimes I will go
to him place.
I got pregnant in 100vl, can't remember
if its first or second semester.
I was so scared.
I told him but he wasn't angry, he was
just confused and asked me what I
wanted to do with it.
We reached a conclusion and he
took me to where I will abort it.
I thought I was going to die,
I was given drugs and I was told what
to do and what not to do.
After the abortion, my love for him
got out of hand.
I practically worshipped him, did
everything he wanted, I started
acting like a submissive wife.
If he needs money, I will give him,
if he's hungry I will cook for him etc
He drinks a lot but I don't mind.
I still loved him. He has anger issue
but I don't mind.
One day, I was in my hostel in the
night and I started hearing voices
outside, one of which belonged to
I ran outside and saw my boyfriend
fighting with my bike man.
I tried to calm him down and took
I went out again to settle the bike man.
When I got inside, I told him that
what he did is not good and that
was how and when it started.
He beat me up right inside my room
I tried lying to everyone that he didn't
touch me just to cover up but they
all saw through my lies.
They advised me and I said I was going
to break up with him.
He called me the next day to beg me
and told me he wanted to see me.
I obeyed and went to his place.
I forgave him and we moved on.
I placed him above everyone else
Then, I started noticing that he had
another girl he's dating.
My friends told me, but I did not pay
attention to them, instead I will report
them to him, even when I eventually
knew, I was not moved, as long as
I know he loves me and i love him too.
I mostly help him financially and we
always fight anything he sees me
chatting with other guys.
Fast forward till I got to 300lvl (he was
in 400lvl) I changed my hostel and
luckily it was closer to his, so I mostly
spend my days and nights with him.
Of a guy calls me, he would tell me to
call the person back and say never
to call me again.
Meanwhile, I was always chatting with
a particular guy but any time I'm going
to my boyfriends place, I do tell him
and I would end the chat.
We were on holiday when I saw his
pictures on his status.
He had an accident. I was so scared that
I couldn't really eat.
Later, I was able to talk to him on phone
and he told me what happened.
He broke one of his legs and the
other was dislocated, he was to go
through a series of surgeries.
I got back to school and after few weeks.
we both decided that I should come
to his mom's house to see him.
I was so happy and at the same
I was going to see my boyfriend's mom.
I got there and tried to adapt to
After I got back to school, the other
guy that I had been talking to
Sent me a message to come and say
hello to him.
I was so bored that day and decided
to go, like a visit won't hurt.
I got there, we gisted and talked.
He actually asked me if I can still
consider him, like double dating him
with my boyfriend, I told him I can't
and moreover, it won't lead anywhere
because he is a Christian.
I actually like him because he's not
as hot tempered as my boyfriend but
I really can't date a Christian because
of family reasons, and I don't want to
date for fun.
We kissed and he wanted to take it
further but I stood my ground and
said No, then I said it's getting late
that I need to get back to my hostel
My boyfriend came back to school a
few weeks later with crutches.
He needed help, so I do leave my
hostel to his to help do some few
One night I was sleeping beside him
and he woke me up in the middle of
the night and showed me videos on
The video was me walking out of a place.
(The night I left the guy's house, there
was not light so I on the touch of my
BlackBerry but didn't know it recorded)
I was scared and at the same time
thinking about how to lie to him.
I lied but he didn't believe, so he beat
me up so I could tell him the truth.
I told him and he asked if we had sex,
I told him NO, he didn't believe and kept
on beating me naked.
He then took my naked pictures and
threatened to post it online.
I was scared, so I told my school mother
and one of my brother's friend in school.
They all came to his hostel, took it
him to the man o' war base in school
then, they collected his laptop and
deleted all the pictures.
After the matter was settled.
I was told to break up with him and
not see him again.
I stopped seeing him for almost a week
but when he called me again and
begged me, I left all the advice people
gave me and forgave him.
I told him I was at fault too that was
how continued our relationship.
I started losing friends, I had a fight
with my roommate too.
I stopped listening to everyone.
My school mother thought it wasn't an
ordinary love and took me to a white
The pastor prayed and said some silly
things that my boyfriend gave me
something to eat, that's why I was
behaving like that.
I was scared because I wasn't used to
all those kind of lifestyle.
I stopped picking his calls but later
went to him to accuse him of giving
me something to eat that he's using me.
He begged me and told me all was a lie.
I believed him and concluded that
the pastor lied, I also noticed that it
seems my school and the man wanted
to scare me away from my boyfriend,
that was why he said that.
So, that was how I started hating
My friends had to report me to my
cousin and elder brother, they told
them what happened and my brother
called me telling me he must never
see me with the guys again.
Eventually what I was trying to hide
in school became a family matter.
My brother called my two sisters
He told them and that was how my
relationship with my family became
somehow, they saw me as a shame
to the family, they even saw me as
a prostitute, as a disgrace.
Hence, the beginning of my depression.
My family asked if I have aborted for
him, i lied, I told them No because I
could not longer bear the shame.
I was so angry at people and the
only person I could lean on was
So I moved out of my hostel, went to
another friend's place and used that
as a play hiding place
What happened made me see my
boyfriend's true color.
I realized that not only does he drinks,
but he smokes weed too.
It was too late for me to back out, so
I accepted him that way.
I still loved him more than myself.
After settling down at me friend's place,
I told my bf where I was and I do go
to his hostel to visit him, some times
I will send the night there
One day, he was going through my
phone and saw a name on my contact
list, he said who did I saved as
I told him the person was someone
He said how will I save a guy's name
as Homie if I'm not dating him.
Then he said I was cheating on him.
I said no that the guy is just a friend,
that he stared slapping me telling
me to delete his number.
Meanwhile, one of his friend was
inside with us but that one didn't
I managed to ran out of the room
and went to my friends place.
I didn't tell anyone since there was
Later, he stared looking for me in
school asking where I was.
He saw me and started begging me
that he is sorry.
I told him not to worry that I'm sorry
1During the time I said he beat me up
naked and took my pictures, he told me
he was dating another girl and there's
nothing I can do.
He said he can't marry the girl though.
We had a little fight again, cant remember
He told me about another girl that he's
Anytime we fight, he unveils some truth
I got to school after my IT and started
living with my boyfriend we were good
together until he started seeing signs
that I did an abortion.
I tried so hard to hide it and lie but he
always sees through my lies.
I eventually told him everything that
happened and what I did during IT.
That was when the problem started.
He would beat me up to the point
I wont be able to walk again.
He will beg md and feed me.
Another day, another beating.
I had nowhere to go because all
my friends left me because of him.
Sometimes, he will wake me up in
the middle of the night to talk to me
and asked me why I did it.
That will lead to another beating.
No one in his hostel could intervene
because they all fear him
I was in 500lvl then and he had an
extra year, so he had to repeat 500lvl.
He made me realized I was at fault
I agreed that fucked up and that he
should forgive me and let's move on.
He said No problem but anytime he
remembers, he would beat me up.
His smoking habit became worse
that he didn't hide it from me again
and I never bothered.
So, it got to a point that I could no
longer hold it again.
I ran to a friend's place.
She knew what happened because
my boyfriend told her.
Meanwhile, I gave him the money I
brought form home after IT including
my school fees, just to make peace
School went on strike for few months
and when I got back, my friend told
me to pack out of his place to her
place that he might kill me one day
I packed to my friend's place before
he came back to school.
I had an extra key.
My friends taught me how to be mean
to him, they made me happy.
He came back and started looking for me.
I told him I don't want to live with him
anymore more and he start begging.
I told him I would be visiting him any
time that is convenient with me.
It was close to our exam period and it's
time to pay school fees.
I have never delayed paying my school
but because he made me spend the
money I couldn't pay in time.
I started looking for money.
He told me I can pay part payment since
we were still in first semester
(I have never payed part payment before)
I agreed he gave me 20k out or 35
that I'm suppose to pay.
Had to call a family friend in New York,
told her I have financial issues,
she sent me 10k, went to meet a male
friend of mine in school, he gave me 10k.
During the period of me looking for
money I met a guy Dammy.
He knew my boyfriend.
He saw me crying and asked what
I told him and he gave me some
money too. I played my school fees
I really do not know what happened
but Dammy later told me that he
needs to settle the fight between
my boyfriend and I
He insisted that he does not want problem.
He settled it and I had to go back to my
Boyfriend begged me to the extent that
I couldn't say No to him.
I still loved him
Second semester, I left my friend's place
and moved back to my bf's place.
Were both living fine.
We only fight any time he remembers
the last abortion I did for another guy.
I do tell him I will never cheat on him
again that he's the one I want to be with.
He promised never to leave me and
I believe him.
He made me promise to always be with
him. Even though my family doesn't
like him due to what has happened
in the past, I never cared, all I wanted
was to be with him and that was my
decision. I was at my friend's place and
he called me one day, I went to his
place in the night, we talked and I told
him I'm sleeping at my friend's place,
not his place
He said no that I should sleep, we
started arguing and he started beating
I ran out and went to my friends place.
Tell both of them what happened and
they asked if I wanted to make him
suffer that they can make it happen.
I said No.
Boyfriend came that same night to
beg me. He said he was not in his right
mind that he's sorry, said he was just
I told him no problem.
I avoided him for a while nd then I went
The truth is he always told me I will
never see any guy that will love me
like he does and i won't see any guy
that will accept me again.
I believed and decided to stick to him.
Fast forward till after school.
I served in ogun State.
He came to visit me one day and we
He saw a chat on my phone with a
He got angry and said I was cheating
He got angry and slapped me.
I begged him and he said no problem.
After service year, we were still talking,
just our normal fights and arguments.
Last year, he asked me how far about
us getting married.
I told him I needed time.
He said he doesn't have time that his
mom is the only parent he have alive
and he wants her to see his child.
I said ok.
He gave me time but then I was
already getting tired of the relationship
but I couldn't tell him, I couldn't tell
anyone, I just lived as if my life was fine.
This year especially during our Ramadan
fasting I started praying.
I never prayed about my relationship
before because I feel have met the one,
so no need of praying about it.
But something in me just changed and
I was like even if I get married to
this guys, is this how we will be having
Two days for arguments, one day for
I prayed, didn't really noticed anything.
Then I told someone else to pray for me.
He told me some things that I don't
really understand but my mind is
gradually getting off him.
July 2020, I told him I'm done with him.
I can't move on, I'm tired.
He thought I was joking and when he
knew i was serious, he rushed down
He begged me that i shouldn't leave
him, he has no more else, I'm the
I told him I don't love him again like
Then I started praying, I wasn't really a
prayerful person but I still tried.
He started calling me again, sometimes,
he will beg me, other times he would
rain insults on me.
Telling me I wasted his time that that
was I looking at over 10 years.
I became frustrated cos he would abuse
me and threaten me
His mom came into the matter, she
asked why I want to break up with her
son after so many years.
I couldn't talk, I only told her I will think
about it, she even insists she
wants to see me but I said I don't
have time because of my work.
I became frustrated and confused.
1. He is not working at the moment we
even fought because of that
2. He said he wanted to open a lounge.
I didn't see any positive improvement
He called me two weeks ago.
Telling me that I hurt him, I disgraced him,
I embarrassed his mom.
He said he would never forgive me and
I will regret not marrying him.
I was scared because I knew what he
He isn't going to hurt me physically but
he would hurt me spiritually.
I told him I would do anything he wants,
I said it to make peace reign.
He calmed down a bit.
Last week he begged me, promising
me so many things, that I won't lack
anything when I get married to him.
He even insists I get pregnant before
I told him no that Marriage before
He said ok
Someone asked me if I have any of
my personal things with him that he
can use to hurt me. I said I'm careless
that I'm not sure.
I was only told to be careful with him
and not to annoy him because he might
to to any length to hurt me
Yesterday night he called me again.
Telling me that he knows I am seeing
someone else that I'm just lying to him.
He told me to say that I am no longer
interested in him.
I didn't talk.
He said he needed all his files on my
system that I shold look for a way to
send them to him.
He then kept on saying that I will regret
hurting him for the rest of my life.
My family will be hurt too.
I'm so scared
PS: There is a love that builds
There is a love that destroys
There is a love that is gainful
There is a love that is hurtful
Juliet must die
Romeo must die
There is a love that keeps both
Romeo and Juliet in one piece
It is in Christ
When she was with him, she had
Now apart from him she still had
If she is full of the Holy Ghost, his
threats become chaff
Oh how I wish they will both see
How I wish they will both come to
know the supernatural reality we
have in the Holy Spirit