Missing Divine Plan?

Question: I have a question sir,
If God has a Plan A that has been 
preordained and it doesn't happen; 
this means God changes his mind. 
Is plan B preordained too? 
Did God have plan A and plan B in 
his hands at the same time.
My mind is finding it hard to wrap 
around this. 
Answer: (This was a "relationship"
 discussion so the answer was given 
in that context)
There was a lady I met in the University, 
300 level! She was in 300 level law.
 She was in a relationship. 
I was not in a relationship. 
We worked together on a campus 
conference project. 
The Holy Spirit told me she is my wife. 
One of our fellowship leaders took 
me on a drive to one of the school’s 
projects inspection tour a few days 
later.
He said “The Lord has laid it on my 
heart that this lady is your wife”
I nodded
The following week the lady’s
relationship got broken 
The guy was a poultry farmer. 
She had a close friend in school, 
they were not dating but they were 
good friends. 
That guy went off to serve around 
that period too. 
She was praying concerning her 
marital destiny and the Holy Spirit 
told her I will reach out to her with 
a message. 
I went to her school and asked her 
to marry me! 
She said she wanted to take some 
time to pray about it. 
I said okay
We became quite close
Calling each other several times 
daily and acting all lovey dovey
with each other
But she was clear that it was only
friendship and not a relationship
I had assumed she was trying to
buy some time so that she will not
be accused of jumping out of one
relationship into another
So i waited patiently for one year
I graduated. 
She came for my graduation dinner. 
She sat beside me. 
I wanted her to see that there was 
no other lady in my life. 
The graduation dinner was when 
those in a relationship informally 
declare their status. 
Many cheats don’t participate in it 
because things might get embarrassing
After the dinner, she slept in one of 
our fellowship leader's house on 
campus
The next day I asked her what her 
verdict was 
She was still dragging her feet. 
I was 28. I wanted to marry at 30. 
I needed to court my intended for 
some time. 
She had taken a whole year of friendship 
without a yes. 
So I called it off! 
She thought it was a joke. 
I was waking her to the university gate 
and I said “If I don’t get a decision 
before we get to the gate, I will be 
honorably withdrawing my proposal” 
she laughed. 
We got to the gate. 
I said goodbye. 
Her bus took off! I cried. 
That was it. 
She called later that night to tell me 
she had gotten back to school safely. 
I was warm and appreciative 
But I stopped calling and acting like a 
boyfriend when I wasn’t one. 
What is the point of bonding with 
someone when there is no purpose 
to the relationship?
She came back to Campus three weeks 
later to see me. She wanted to know if 
I can change my mind. I said no! By that 
time I had come to realize that if I got 
married to her it would seem like coercion 
or blackmail. 
I wanted someone who will accept me 
as I am, not someone who will say 
“And I didn’t want to say yes to you o”! 
I moved on. I got married at 30! 
She got married to the guy (Her friend) 
that went for NYSC
They got married two years after i got 
married in 2012
She reached out to me last year over an 
issue with her son, I prayed with her and 
her son got healed. She is blessed and 
so am I
Nobody missed anything
If Mary had been deflowered the Saviour 
would have come through another virgin
The Bible said a virgin shall conceive and 
bear a child
The Bible didn’t say it has to be Mary

PS: Saul was God's plan
David was God's plan too
Peter was God's plan
Paul was God's plan too
Judas was God's plan
Matthias was God's plan too
For those of us who are walking
and living as led by the Holy
Spirit, God's plan will daily be
revealed in us.
Conforming to the Image of
Christ is God's plan
Those who are in Him can never
miss their way