The Edge of the Rainbow
He made a mistake at 30. A very costly, life changing error
He met a lady, they got talking
Within minutes, he knew she had a strong spiritual issue, the issue of "spirit husband"
He sensed a strange domineering spirit holding her bound
He asked her if she was aware of it, she said she was, that she had been to many places trying to get rid of it. She had been to prophets, spiritualists, and herbalists
She said she was given baths in rivers, she had done six spiritual divorces
She had travelled with her mother to places far and near in search of a solution
She said no matter where they went or what was done, this spirit would come back plunging her depths unrepentantly in the middle of the night
She said she started sleeping wearing tights and crossing her legs but it still didn't help
She said she was tired and had given up on living a normal life
He said she shouldn't worry; he was a minister of the gospel and he was anointed to make exploits
He invited her to his church, they had a three-day fasting and prayers
He declared her free and they parted ways
A month later, she called him out of the blue, "Hey, long time, I want to thank you for praying for me and helping me solve this issue once and for all.
Since we prayed, I have had no nocturnal visitations and I am able to sleep soundly without any strange dreams or signs now. God bless you. However, I still have an issue, no man has come around to ask me out or offer any form of friendship, do I have to do another special prayer for that? I am 28 and I am really trusting God to get married this year"
When he read her message, his ego also read the message and interpreted it as, "You prayed for me and I only got a partial answer. Your God is not powerful enough to settle me completely."
He called her the following morning, they met and talked
He felt that since he was single and unattached and she was single and unattached they should then date each other
He would be solving the problem she was lamenting about and at the same time sealing the testimony once and for all
When he broke the news to his relatives, they kicked against it
His older sister said it was a ridiculous way to start a relationship
His mother said, "Did you pray? What is the Holy Spirit saying?"
His father said, "Did you do any Investigations? Do you want me to do this at least so that we will know their antecedents?
He knew what his father would find, marriages were alien to her family
The last person who attempted to get married in her family was unsuccessful as the whole affair scattered right at the altar
It is either the husbands die early, or the marriages end up in tatters
But he was a born again Christian and so was she
He believed such a reality was alien to them
They began to date
He saw she was unaccommodating of anyone apart from her family members
She didn't like any of the neighbors, didn't have a good relationship with her co-workers in the office, didn't want anyone around him including his own people (Relatives and friends, etcetera)
She told him herself that she was extremely jealous and would do anything to protect her space from every form of invasion (Friendly or otherwise)
He should have bolted! He observed that her father was surrounded only by her mother's people
Her father's only younger sister who comes to their house had been labelled a witch and was always viewed with suspicion whenever she came around
Her father's other relatives were called all sorts of names from "Glory stealers", "Voodoo worshippers", "Fake Pastors", "Juju priests", to "Afflicters" etcetera
But her mother's people were good people, even though it was her mother's mother that took her mother to an herbalist when she couldn't conceive which led to the birth of her younger sister and a strange tree being planted in the compound that nobody dared to talk about or touch
Yet the demonized ones were her father's people?
He noticed how her mother had taken over the family affairs and turned the children against their father
She would report him to them and they would come at him unrepentantly in defense of their mother
He saw these things... Oh how he should have bolted! He kept saying, "Two born again Christians should be able to work things out according to the standards of Zion and not according to culture, tradition, whims of men and weaknesses of nature" etcetera
He talked himself into staying
Talked himself into staying daily
She started marriage class, he refused to start
Her father asked him why she was not pregnant yet, he said he was not that kind of Christian
Her father said he was not a man! He should have bolted!
The signs were obvious and the flags were bright red, but he stayed
He almost didn't go for his own wedding
His spirit was reluctant but he had given her his word
He didn't attend the engagement party at all
His wife to be cried and cried
He felt no remorse, only relief
Finally, they got married
Then she took over
It was like a joke
She shut down the ministry he had
She said it wasn't bringing in as much money as needed and he must get a job
Funny thing was, the job didn't bring in much money too but she was more comfortable with him having a secular job than being a Pastor
Then her father died and all his relatives that had been painted black showed up for the pre-burial plans
He met them and they were humane, warm, real and kind
They were not what had been depicted
He realised he had goofed
She was running on a template laid down by her mother
Soon, all his own relatives would be labelled witches, and jujumen and he would be as her father was to her mother, a side thing while she runs her matriarchal empire
He decided he wouldn't let that happen
He was not willing to die so young like her father so that she could establish a pattern set by the females before her
He wouldn't be a victim, so he resisted strongly
He began praying again, he resumed ministry against her will and he began to thrive
He started a church, she shut it down claiming a member of the choir was looking at him seductively
He started another, she shut it down because he dared greet a sister on a Sunday morning by saying, "Good morning ma, you look good."
She would taunt him with his call, "And you call yourself a pastor, a man of God, and yet you cannot provide for your family! You are worse than an infidel!"
She would insist he must not have or hold money, "When a man has money, he will begin to womanize. You don't need to be rich for us to be happy or for you to make a good husband."
It was too late to run by then, they already had a child
It was a mistake that had become a complication
The more she tried to establish her dominance over him, the more he resisted
He refused to be broken
The marriage was a battle ground
Wills and might clashing for fun
Many a wise man waded into the issue trying to settle them
A lot of water under the bridge but he was determined not to be muscled out of relevance in his own life
She banned his relatives from coming over to visit
He banned her relatives too
She viewed everything with suspicion
He simply prospered until there were too many things to suspect without going crazy
She didn't understand his prosperity
She would say, "How did you become rich? I don’t want anything to do with your money? How did you make it?"
He would say, "I have served you and diminished, now I am serving God and flourishing."
It was a mistake that could not be corrected
The level of strife and contention was outrageous
They had to consider the children and raising them in a good environment
Toxicity is a learned conditioning
It took years but at last the mistake was brought back to the city gate and addressed
She went her way, he went his way
It was a parting that warranted a thanksgiving service
She had attacked him physically on several occasions and he could have lost his life or sanity on at least one of those occasions
There were blessings to count and a future to count on
Glory be to God
PS: As I read, listened and pondered upon the story written above I came to one conclusion
Mistakes can be costly but they must be addressed and corrected
Don't leave them to fester or ignore them
As a leopard will never shed its spots, so will a wrong never make a right
If you find yourself wallowing in the consequences of a mistake, don’t give up
Fight, fight your way out of the miry clay
Pay the price, whatever it is apart from your life
Be free to fulfil your destiny
Grace is abounding towards you Hallelujah.
Ps of PS:
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