Walking Away

Dont get dragged into a fight you know 
nothing about out of sentiment and a 
subtle blackmail
It is better to be in control of a situation 
than to be the one being controlled by 
the situation
If you have gotten yourself into such a 
situation, it is always wise to walk away 
on time 
A lady came to me in tears
She said her younger sister was killed 
by her husband and as a result of that 
she planned to deny him the right to raise 
the children lady left behind because she 
was sure he was not fit to be a parent
I asked her how her sister died and she 
told me the story
The man really didn't kill the lady
Some couples quarrel all the time, this 
man and his late wife fall into that category
The lady was not very healthy from birth 
and the man took a gamble getting 
married to her
Of course he could have been kinder 
and more humane in the way he treated 
her
She could have done better too
Many pastors and well-wishers got involved 
in their marital struggle until one day the 
lady fell ill and passed on
While the lady was ill, her older sister 
took her children home and took care of 
them because the man was working out 
of state
This woman decided her sister could 
have lived longer but for the incessant 
disagreements she was having with her 
husband
She combed through her late sister's 
phone to gather evidence of the 
misunderstandings between the couple
She really didn't have a case, the children 
ought to be raised by their father if he 
desires to exercise that right
She went to police stations to report the 
case and she was counseled that she 
has no right to seize the man's children 
out of spite
It is true that she was hurting that her 
sister was dead but her sister had 
always been sick and constant disagreement 
between a couple does not amount to murder, 
especially since the man was out of state 
when his wife died and there was no foul 
play whatsoever
Out of desperation, this woman came to me.
She wanted to go supernatural on the 
matter, since 
legal avenues seemed like a lost cause
We had a chat and she cried very well
I felt a strong restrain on the matter but 
what else do you do when you are faced 
with the sight of a woman in tears?
I fell for it and told the woman I will pray 
about it
Later that day she sent me a video clip of 
a family meeting they had in which the 
man was shouting violently after he was 
told that his children will not be released 
to him
When I saw that video, I paused
I realized that the man had more restrain 
that I
No man or woman in this world can take 
my children from me
If anybody threatens it or tries it
I will unleash unprecedented catastrophe 
on such a person
I mean that!
If I was in the man's shoes, I wouldn't just 
be shouting and getting myself videoed
I would have locked every member of that 
family up without a second thought! 
So i stayed action and didnt do anything 
about the matter
This woman expected to see lighting, thunder, 
earthquake, and tsunami by the Holy Ghost 
but she saw nothing
The man had taken her to court and the 
case will start in February
She went to members of the late sister's 
church seeking someone who would stand 
as a witness against this man in court
Nobody responded
Not because they supported the man but 
because they knew the marriage was tough 
and both parties played their part in that
She reached out to pastors from three 
denominations who had helped the couple 
settle their quarrels at different times
None of them saw the case as worthy of 
their time and attention
The counsel was, "Release the man's 
children to him, he is their father. 
If he doesn't love them, he wouldn't be 
fighting tooth and nail to get them back 
right now" 
So again this woman reached out to me 
asking me to come and be a witness in 
court when the case starts in February
Brother Gbenga, how can I be a witness 
when I didn't witness anything
What would I say?
Is that not what they call hearsay?
Like going there to report what the 
woman told me or just appearing in court 
to slander a man who I bear no grudge 
against
I told the woman I cannot be a witness
She asked me if I think she was lying 
when she told me the man didn't treat 
his late sister as well as he should have
I said I cannot be a witness because 
i am not a witness
She felt very disappointed about my 
stance but I cannot allow her to put 
me in a situation of compromise because 
of her feelings and her personal sense 
of judgment or vengeance
I had to walk away.
I am writing this to you Brother Gbenga 
to find out if you think 
I did the right thing
If it can be a blessing to people on your 
timeline and websites, I will like to know 
their opinion too
Above all, I felt a burden lift when I 
decided to share this with you
Couples need to do better in their 
marriages and family members need 
to stop blaming spouses for the death 
of their relative without a shred of 
evidence
If he was the one that died, we would 
have done everything to protect his 
wife and we wouldn't separate her from 
her children
It was too convenient to deny him the 
right to his children because you are 
angry

Pastor Emmanuel A. 

PS: I read this and i felt we will learn one 
or two things from it

-GSW-