Vultures

Some people simply dont know how 
to love, of course, they think they do 
and they act as if they do but deep 
down, they really don't
They love themselves too much to really 
love or give themselves to another
Whoever they are with is only good 
enough as long as they can still get 
something out of such a person
Be it friend, relative, lover or wife
What they can get determine the depth 
of the friendship and as soon as they 
cannot get anything out of the person 
again, the relationship is dead
They are more of users and abusers
His father was one of such 
people
His grandmother too (His Father's mother)
The pattern had been on over and over 
again since he was a child
He saw the way his father treated his 
mother (A loving, gentle and caring) woman
He walked all over her and eventually 
walked out of the marriage when he 
met a rich widow who inherited a ton of 
money after the demise of her husband
His father moved out of their flat
He moved in with this woman and began 
to fleece her until she was broke
Eventually, his father migrated to the 
United Kingdom with the woman but 
as soon as he got a job and was 
established in the UK, he dumped the 
woman and latched on to another lady
A German national who was earning 
very well as a computer analyst
At first, he thought his father was a 
victim of a family curse but as he grew 
older, he realized his father was not a 
victim
He was having a drive with his father 
one day when his father said 
"Don't marry anybody for long unless the 
person is as rich as the sea. 
Once they run out of money or value, 
walk out. If you don't walk out, you will 
get walked out on"
It was not just the words bu the way his 
father said it 
He told himself he wouldn't turn out 
that way.
His father was quite a handsome man and 
he looked soft and caring on the outside. 
This was how he disarmed his victims.
He had inherited his father's good looks 
and soft voice, but he was determined to 
do better
He was determined to love any woman 
he ends up getting married to
It was a solemn vow he made from his heart 
and for that reason he kept away from fickle 
relationships and flings until he was ready
He got married in 2011, on a rainy Saturday 
morning. 
His wife came from a broken home, like him,
 and they both swore to be true to each other
Three months after they got married, his 
wife got a visa and fully funded scholarship 
abroad
She had been pursuing the opportunity 
before they met and they both knew if she 
got it, she would be going to the UK to study
He applied for a visa to the UK too
(Money was not an issue)
He had his biometrics and waited patiently 
for his visa to be approved
His wife left in October that same year, one 
month after she got the visa
The plan was for him to visit as often as 
possible with his six months visa until he 
got a two-year visa and so on
She left on a Wednesday
Eighteen days after his wife left, he got a 
mail from a foreign account
He opened it and he saw a video of his 
wife and a man having sex
It was sent to him by the man's wife
The woman was fighting for her home 
and his wife was designated the 
"homewrecker"
The video ruined his day
Later that day, his wife called at about 
11pm just to check on him
He had noticed a change in her attitude 
after the first week of her departure 
but he felt she was going through 
registration and other stuff in school
He had no idea she could jump into 
bed with another man so quickly
He picked her call and she started 
asking him how his day was and all
He was determined not to tell her but 
the hypocrisy was galling
At a point, he couldn't take it anymore 
and he screamed at her to shut up
He told her everything
She began to stammer
She said she couldn't explain what 
happened or how it happened
One minute she met this Nigerian professor 
who walked up to her and introduced himself
The next she was in his office and his 
touch just melted her to the bone
She started to cry and to 
apologize
Their marriage was not even six months 
old yet, all he could do was cry
She began to talk about getting help, 
therapy, temptation, the devil, begging 
him to stop crying and let it go. 
She even said she used protection except 
for that first time when scattered in the 
professor's office
As if that information was any consolation
He cried for weeks and she called every day 
asking that they pray together over the 
phone in the morning before setting out 
and that they catch up in the evening 
every day
He followed the motions but the tears kept 
flowing
He got another mail, this time from the 
embassy, his visa had been approved
He was about to call her and give her the 
good news when he saw another mail
His wife and the professor again, with a 
date stamp on the video establishing 
that the sex happened that day
The note said "I have left him for her, I am 
tired of fighting"
He didn't bother to reply
He didn't pick her calls that day
He had been waiting for the visa, his bag 
was packed, so he bought his ticket and 
traveled to the UK two days later
At first, he wanted to confront her but 
the UK is not Nigeria
He didnt want to get shot or locked up
He had heard too many sordid tales
He decided to visit his father and other 
relatives and pretended all was well at 
the home front
Eventually, his wife realized he was in 
the UK and came calling
She asked him why he was acting weird
 after they had settled the rift
He told her he wanted a divorce
He had played the fool for just long 
enough
He didn't even tell her anything about
 the second video
Her attitude and demeanor was all 
"Snap out of it, what is the big deal" 
and it was irritating especially because 
he knew she was still cheating
She tried to persuade him but it was 
water off a duck's back
He returned to Nigeria and closed that 
chapter
It was then he discovered that being a 
divorcee is a stigma of sort
Most ladies avoided getting into anything 
serious with him and he was never the 
type to just sleep around
He met another lady in 2014, she came 
to his office to market her business
She was into building materials
They became friends and started seeing 
each other socially after a while
He introduced her to some of his 
colleagues 
(He was working with a cement manufacturing 
company)
Talks got serious and he began to dream of 
getting married again
Then he got to the office one Monday 
morning and found everyone whispering 
and looking at him somehow
He had no idea what was going on
By noon that day, their MD announced
 that they had employed a manager for 
their office in Lekki
The staff was his babe
She had stayed with him long enough to 
meet someone who could give her a 
dream job at his company
She said nothing to him about her plans 
or ambition
She called him
She picked and sounded so enthusiastic 
about her new job
He congratulated her and didn't bother 
proceeding with the 
relationship
He remembered the day he introduced 
her to the MD during their end of the 
year party
He had been used!
Period.
His father's words proved right in an odd 
way, Mr. Nice always got dumped
It was like a dagger was plunged deep 
into his heart
He gave up on love that day! 

PS: He eventually got married in 2017
He didn't marry for love
He has two children
His wife said she is more or less a stranger 
in the marriage
She wanted him to love and be open 
with her
He laughs such childishness off
He says he is responsible
She should be satisfied with that

GSW's Note
We can play the blame game all we want
There is only one fact that was 
conspicuously missing from the story
God was missing in it
Human Beings by themselves can only walk 
in error
Without God, man is nothing!
While Christian relationships have their
share of challenges
Ungodly relationships are time bombs
They blow up in all sorts of places
A man or woman who has not learned
how to love God shouldn't pretend to
be capable of loving people
The Love of God will change your reality
if you will come to him
Come to Jesus today, He will make you 
whole