I started sleeping with my sister's
husband out of pity
Yes, it was out of pity at the beginning
before somehow i have landed myself
in a mess right now
You need to hear my story Brother Gbenga,
you really need to tell my story!
My sister was a choleric, the type that
rated money above many other things
She had a shop, a shoe and bags outfit that
she treated like her life project
I came into the family as a help at the shop,
even though my sister was my older sister
of the same father and mother!
She was eleven years older than I am and
came to lie to my parents that she wanted
to take me to Abuja to put me in school
I was in the village and I liked my life there
I was with my parents who loved me and
made sure I didn't lack anything
As soon as I got to Abuja, my sister told
me the academic session was half done
and I would have to wait until the next term
before she would put me in school
I was 15 years old and she didn't see it as
unfit for her to convert me to her sales girl
Later during that period, I overheard her
telling one of her friends that she had to
pick me from the village because I was
She said if i stole her money it wouldn't be
as painful as it would be if an outsider stole it
Her friend told her it was a wise decision
By this time it was becoming obvious to me
that my sister didn't plan to enroll me in school
She just wanted to use me without a care for
When i called my parents to report to them
what was going on, my sister denied everything!
She came home that day and beat me badly,
she said I stole her money and wanted to
return to the village to spend it
She called the police and I was locked up
overnight it was her husband that bailed me
out the next morning
I told her husband I didn't steal anything
he said he knew, it was my sister's style of
punishment to break stubborn employees
Her husband said he had thought my sister
would treat me much better than he treated
the other sales girls that had worked with
her in the past
My sister's husband was a soft-spoken
gentleman who had a strong sense of
He promised that he would enroll me in school
the following term and he did so despite my
elder sister's protests that since I just came
to Abuja from the village, i cannot cope with
the demands of a city school.
From the day i had the effrontery to follow
her husband to the boarding school, she
washed her hands off me.
She stopped talking to me and whenever i
speak to her she will just turn her head away
and act as if i was a ghost
Her husband took full responsibility for me
until i finished my secondary school.
My parents didn't know this.
To them my sister was spending money on
me and keeping her promise.
When i finished secondary school, my
sister's husband ensured i gained admission
into the University
He spent quite a lot of money I cannot lie
to you, he treated me the way an older
brother will treat his sister and he was a
very responsible man
After my 100 level, i went to their house
for my holidays, i noticed something had
My sister had moved out of their room and
was sleeping in the guest room during the
I didn't say anything at first but when ASUU
went on strike and i noticed it didn't stop,
i asked my sister's husband one day what
was going on
(They have been married for eleven years
without a child) He explained that they went
for some tests at the hospital and it was
discovered that he was the one with the
He said since the day they got the result of
the test, my sister moved out of the room to
punish him for wasting her time for the past
11 years and was considering what her next
move will be!
Sir, this man is a "good" man
I think that discussion was a mistake or
perhaps it was too intimate not to have the
repercussion that has brought us here.
A few days after we had that discussion,
he started looking at me that way, you know...
I cannot lie, I know my sister is vindictive
and very wicked
That good man was suffering
The day after he gave me that look, he asked
me if i would like to move to another relative's
house (My Aunt lives in Kubwa).
He assured me that he would still pay my fees
but his thoughts towards me had suddenly
I told him I noticed that too
I packed my bags that evening
My sister returned home from her shop and
walked past me to where her husband was
seated in the sitting room!
She started screaming "Shameless man,
paper frog, that's how you sat down and
wasted my time with your dead semen, you
better go and hang yourself and die!
If you die i will have something to show for
twelve years of my life or do you want me
to leave this house empty handed?
Is that your plan?
Drink sniper and die or hang yourself on that
Brother Gbenga, I am not making an excuse sir,
my heart cut at that moment!
Thirty minutes later, my sister reemerged from
the room fully dressed.
She picked her car keys and left the house.
As soon as she left, her husband got on his
feet and started pacing up and down, talking
I cannot tell if he wanted to commit suicide or
not but i felt he was very disturbed, I went to
meet him, I held his hands and hugged him
He hugged me tightly for a very long time
and then he started crying
Everything that happened was natural from
He kissed my ears and then my lips and well,
our clothes said goodbye!!!
That was the first day
I didn't leave after then, I cannot say why.
I stayed and took care of him and slept
I was confirmed pregnant at the start of the
lockdown in April, two months pregnant!
We didn't take precautions because we knew
his sperm was dead! It was a shock!
He moved me out of the house immediately,
he rented a place for me at the beginning of
Nobody in my family knows what is going on,
but I am determined to keep this baby and if
possible keep the man!
He is having a crisis of conscience and
wondering what his friends and church
people will say
I know my sister will raise hell but I would
rather she raised it in my absence.
All i need now is your counsel.
What do you think i should do about settling
the family crisis here and how can you help?
God bless you brother Gbenga,
Thank you for being you!
PS: This case woke me up a few days ago,
I presented it before the Holy Spirit as
Isaiah did with Zennacherib's letter and laid
on my face for hours! I do not take people's
reality for granted and this was as clumsy and
knotted as other cases i have seen the
Holy Spirit resolve
I know this knotted and tangled web will
be resolved in the most miraculous way!
Every time I pray, i am expectant of a