Mending Mistakes

He had the opportunity to date her
when they met at Iroko Community
grammar school
They were both external students
He graduated from Loyola College Ibadan
She Graduated from Wesley college Elekuro
She wanted to study medicine
He wanted to study law
She failed her Physics examination
He failed his literature
They both had to resit their WAEC  
examinations
She was already in OAU studying Chemistry
He was already in UI studying Adult Education
They both stood out like sore thumbs
at the examination centre
He was brilliant and many of the students
at the examination centre thronged to him
for tutorials
He arrived at the centre a month before
the examinations
He wanted to nail it "this time"!
The village offered little distractions
All they really had for recreation were 
one another
He met a lady at his tutorial class
They started talking and eventually
he started sleeping with her
It was just sex
A week to the commencement of the
examination
She arrived
She was driven to the centre in a Benz
Her father drove her
Two house maids came with her to 
help her prepare her room
She came loaded with bags of water,
noodles, eggs, all sorts of provisions
Within minutes, the chatter went round
the community
Who is that girl?
She was a beauty
Well groomed, confident and with glinting
eyes
He lost interest in everything else from the
moment he saw her
She was his Juliet, his life
But ladies are nobody's muppet
She had her own "Ideal man" and he
didn't fit the criteria
She was impressed by his mind
He was really intelligent and has a
bright future
But he had nothing
He dressed poor, he had no money
in his pocket, he was all huff and puff
No substance
But in the village at the time, he was
the only one she could relate with
They were both intellectually of the
same class and she understood his
language
They became fast friends
They were so close that they started
sleeping together in her room
(Not having sex)
She didn't let things go that far
She couldn't see a future with him
and wouldn't sleep with anybody
just for the fun of it
Besides she had just gotten
dumped by her boyfriend and was
hoping to mount a comeback
They both had a symbiotic relationship
She provided the food and the comfort
He provided the company and a very
warm glow in her heart
She really needed his company to deal
with the heartbreak
He was a very good listener and a
fast learner
Even though she didn't offer him
her body, he left all the other girls
running after him to be with her
They wrote the examinations and 
parted ways
Deliberately, she didn't give him 
her contact address as she left
He asked and pleaded
She said NO!
He was temporary fun, it was only
wise that she left him in the past
They both cried on the day they
parted ways
In all they spent five weeks together
Two weeks after the examinations were
over, they were still in the village
She wouldn't call what she had for him 
love
But it was special!
They didn't meet again until three years
later
She was a medical student at the time
Her boyfriend took her to "Whispering
Palms" for the Valentine weekend
She was sitting in the reception while
her boyfriend filled the forms when 
he walked in with his babe
She couldn't believe her eyes
He had changed drastically
Gone was the poor man's attire
He was very well dressed and was
even wearing a gold chain around
his neck and left hand
It was a total transformation
He couldn't contain his joy when he
saw her
His girlfriend and her boyfriend felt
the chemistry between them 
immediately
Immediately she settled into the room
with her boyfriend she started plotting
how to see him
They had a lot of catching up to do
The opportunity came the next morning
Her boyfriend was sleeping, she sneaked
out of the room and went looking
for him
He came out of his room at the same time
too
It was telepathic, the way their minds
synced to purpose
She hugged and kissed him
She had missed him sorely
He said he wanted to be with her
He said he wanted to marry her
She said he shouldn't ruin a good thing
They had this precious feeling for 
each other
She wanted to keep it that way
Relationships ruin people
She didn't want them to be ruined
He asked for her phone number
She said No!
He asked for her address
She said no!
She took his hand and took him
to the reception
She asked that they be given a room
It was crazy
Who does that?
His girlfriend was in a room in the same
hotel
Her boyfriend was in a room in the same
hotel
He told her NO!
It is either they are together properly
or they are no together at all
It was not about having sex and getting 
her out of his system for him
She clung to him in tears
She really loved him and wanted to
be with him 
The sight of him brought to life so many
dead hormones and emotions
He was the only one that had that
effect on her
She should have damned the consequences
at that time
She should have gone with her heart
It would have been a minor scandal
Her boyfriend would be mad
His girlfriend would be mad
They would both be labeled as cheats
or whatever
But they will be together and do it right
She didn't know why she walked away
She just did!
After about five minutes of hugging
him and crying, she left him and walked
back to her room without looking back
She felt strongly that it was not 
meant to be
His girlfriend came out of their room
just as she was walking away
She saw him in tears
She told him they had to change hotels
immediately or break up
He had no reason to stay in the hotel
They checked out
In 2009, she located him on Facebook
He was single
He had broken up with his girlfriend
and was not seeing anybody at the time
She had broken up with her boyfriend too
but she was casually sleeping with 
someone
She planned to travel abroad and settle 
down in the UK
She reached out to him in his inbox
They started chatting
She told him her plans
He told her his
The feeling was still intact
But their plans are in the way
He didn't want to go abroad 
He wanted to stay and succeed in
Nigeria
She felt there was no point dating
him since they would eventually part
ways
He was willing to compromise
Dump everything and travel with her
She felt it would be too much sacrifice
on his part
He might eventually hate her for pulling
him away from his dreams
She was staying in Akure at the time
He was in Lagos!
Two years later, she got married
Her plan of travelling was shelved because
she got pregnant
She was twenty-nine and he proposed
He decided it was okay to get married
But he was an abusive man
His anger was second to none and he 
had no regard for her
When she was four months pregnant
They had a fight and he beat her
mercilessly
She lost the pregnancy
She got a divorce
She moved to Lagos
Her life was in shambles and she started
picking up the pieces
She started attending a church close
to her new house
One Sunday, she saw him and his wife
with their two children
They were attending the same church
It was terrible!
She couldn't come down from her car
She just watched them as they walked
from their parked car into the church
auditorium
She drove herself home and cried all-day
He had it all together
Why didn't her life work out like his?
She started attending the second service
of the church in order to avoid him and
his family
It took about six months for them to meet
They met at a filling station
She was trying to get some fuel for her
generator when he drove in
He recognized her immediately
He came down from the car and 
hugged her
He drove her home afterward
They talked and talked
She wanted to be with him
Just for the sex
She wanted to know what it would
be like t sleep with him
It was the one fantasy of hers that
never came to pass
When she attempted to kiss him
He said "You can never change.
What made you think I will sleep with
you now after i have refused to do it 
when we were both single at that 
hotel?"
I will not dishonor you or my wife
that way
You should know I will not do that!
When we were together in Iroko, I
was 19 years old and you were 17
I left a girl I was sleeping with to
be with you
Did I pressure you for sex?
I remember we kissed and smooched
on some nights and you said NO
Did I try to convince you to go against
your will?
I have always been very cerebral and
deliberate
You should be disappointed in me if
I take advantage of you this way"
He had settled down
The philosopher in him has faced 
the reality
She regretted not taking the chance
when she had it
She told him so
He understood
He told her he had no regrets
He married a wonderful woman who
loved him with all her heart
He promised her he would be of assistance
to her in every way he could
Three months later, he introduced her
to his cousin
She laughed it off at the start
But he told her she must go out with
his cousin as a favour to him
If it didn't work out, it shouldn't be
because she dismissed it outrightly
He said "You dismissed me and today
you regret it! You must learn to give
people a chance! 
Go out with him and assess him,
I believe you will like him"
She did!
His cousin had a lot in common with
him
His cousin had also lived abroad
They took some weeks to settle into
the relationship
Six months later, his cousin helped
her apply for a job in the UK
She got it
She also got a visa and traveled
She got her dream back
His cousin joined her six months
later
He proposed and she said YES!

Ps: They got married in November 
2017
They have a son
I often hear people say 
"We mistakenly had sex"
I believe this to be very untrue
Unless two people are drunk
Or one was drunk or under the influence
of a drug or something else
No one can mistakenly have sex
Sex was not designed to be had
mistakenly
You can even put it in and then
realize it is a mistake
You can stop halfway and realize
it is a mistake
It was designed to be deliberate!
Please use it as prescribed!
God bless you!