Sexual Compatibility (Grey Areas)

Bro Gbenga

Good evening, sir!

As I write to you now, I’m blushing like a new bride. I will be having my wedding soon! If it continues on this path. All these are happening because he messaged me and we’ve had an amazing time talking over the phone between yesterday and today. He’s quite a pleasant fellow. Looking forward to an exciting time with him. 

Thank you  for sending my profile. I’m glad he picked me.

A MONTH LATER

Good morning, Bro Gbenga, I hope this message finds you well. I wanted to update you on the events with my man.

Firstly, I have been heartbroken, and I still am. And I honestly, I wish things would turn around for the better.

HE sent me this message over a month ago :

“Dear, may the peace, grace, and mercies of God be upon you. Last week, after that phone call, I was laden with a lot of guilt, shame, and self-disappointment. The show me mercy prayers on nsppd a few hours later i couldn’t even manage to beg God for anything else. I just kept begging for mercy. Not that I don’t like you. I have feelings for you. But because I had done something and allowed my emotions to travel to a place where I was still promising God on my birth day, I didn’t want to be.

You are special to God. God’s pearl. I should have been able to manage the situation better and not let our emotions escalate.

I am deeply sorry. I am not sure I am good enough for you. In this season of your life, you deserve a man who loves you well and with clarity.

My actions that day don’t prove my capacity to love you well, and the long-term issue I have been dealing with doesn’t allow me to provide the kind of clarity you need.

I’m happy to talk, but I think my message might do. I would be grateful if you could please consider moving on from me. I think it’s unfair to keep you on the level we have been for one more day. You are an amazing woman and deserve your heart to be given to someone who is more ready to love you whosomely like Jesus does and instructs.

I am deeply sorry…”

Bro Gbenga, this message came days after we had an honest conversation about ourselves and the future.  Meanwhile, he had a surgery during the time, though he didn’t say what type, but I could guess. I could guess because in one of the nights, while he was still at the hospital, he showed me his pENIS and to be honest, it looked fragile. I showed him pant and bumbum too plus breast. It was a romantic and honest moment for us.

(I thought so in my head) But I woke up 3 days after to his message.

Please, what do I do?

I honestly still care about him.

Help me please 

Brother Gbenga: So why did he break it off with you?

It’s about his reproductive organ.

I don’t know the details. And we’ve not been speaking since he sent that message.

Oh

I’m not sure, but I think he felt guilty he overindulged… or he led me…

That night, he showed me his entire manhood, and he said that after a month, he was going to explain why he had to show it to me. Especially in such sensitive circumstances.

PS: This man knew he had a challenge with his sex organ

He knew he was going to have to do surgery to correct the problem.

He went all out, talking to a lady and asking her to marry him.

The lady saw him and liked him because he was the picture of a perfect gentleman.

They talked on the phone daily until things got emotional.

He went for the surgery without informing her beforehand.

After the surgery, he needed to test if his sex organ is now working.

He initiated a call to her, and it got intense.

He asked to see her breasts and privates and offered to show her his own

He saw her and realised he didn’t get a hard on, so he hid under the “guilt” of seeing her naked and broke it off.

I know she dodged a bullet, and it is better for her to know this way than to know after marriage.

These are some of the issues I said are the grey areas, which the church must look into, so that we ensure that those who are getting married truly have what it takes to be married.

-GSW-