As soon as her mother got home that evening
Her mother called her into the room
for a mother-daughter chat
She was the first child
She was eighteen years old
The first of four children
She was her mother's best
friend and confidant
Her mother said "You will not believe
what happened today!
I went to a church for prayers with
"Sister so and so" and
"Sister such and such"!
I actually didn't plan to
go anywhere we them!
We went for the Conference level,
Women Missionary Union
meeting being held at one of the church branches!
We all went in Sister "Such and Such's car!
When we were done, she said
she wanted to branch somewhere
on the way home!
We had no option but to go with her!
When we got to the place she
was going, she asked us to come
with her, so we went into the flat she
was going with her!
The place was not a church, it was
a residential apartment!
When we got into the place, it
was designed like an office, with some
plastic chairs at the reception!
We sat down!
The receptionist welcomed us and
went into an office
A few minutes later a young man
emerged, he greeted us well!
He knew Sister Such and Such
and they spoke in familiar terms then he
turned to me and said
"You are Sister "This and That",
you have a daughter named "XYZ"!
I realized he was a prophet, I stood up and said "Yes sir"
He said "Tell your daughter that she
should not waste time chasing boys
and listening to deceivers!
Her husband is in the USA, he is
fair in complexion, works with a
He will meet your daughter in 2003,
when your daughter is 28 years old!
They will be married here in Nigeria
and at the age of 30 your daughter
will relocate and be with him!
They will both build a good life
I said "Amen"
He attended to Sister
"Such and Such" and we left!
I don't know what to make of it,
but I am sure he is a man of God!
She didn't know what to think!
She is hating and she had a crush,
an artist who has been sending her
secret letters and using words to
lure her into secret fantasies!
She told her mother, she has heard
She returned to school!
She was with the artist for one more year
The artist got a better opportunity
in Abuja, promised her he would
keep in touch, relocated and
vanished into thin air!
She graduated and served!
She met other guys, most are
interested in the potential of a
fling or short term relationships
She didn't want anybody to use her
to gain relationship experience
She didn't want to be anybody's
And yet, she longed for a heart mate
She was not getting any younger
she needed to build a life and make
her own family.
Her mother didn't forget the prophecy
Her mother was weary of her making
a mistake and thwarting "God's plan"
for her life
But she didn't care about that!
On two other occasions, the prophecy
A woman approached her in the
market and told her "Hold on,
your husband is coming for you, he will
come from America"
A friend also told her that she had a
dream in which the friend saw her
From the details of the dream, she was
getting married to a guy who came
into the country from
America and at the end of the dream, she
relocated to America with the guy!
She was a pragmatic person and
she hated the idea of putting her
life on hold because of a prophecy!
She got a job with the human resources
department of an Insurance firm!
She started praying fervently that the right
man would come along!
And he did!
He strolled in one Tuesday morning
to register a complaint about his insurance paperwork!
One look at her, he softened his
stance and started acting all smitten!
He asked her out
They went on several dates
He was a very charming guy
He was a shoe salesman
He lived in New York
(Has lived there for over twenty years)
He was single and desired to get
He was the one who was
Everything that was said about
him was true!
They got married a year later
She got pregnant immediately
In 2005, she relocated to America with her
three-month-old son to
be with him!
As soon as she got to America, she enrolled
for her nursing degree!
It was expensive but he was willing to foot the bill
At a point when the bill was too high
for them to cope she took student loans
and somehow she was able to complete the course!
She gave birth to two more children
She graduated top of her class
She got a job and things improved
They moved to a bigger apartment
and enrolled their children private
She was earning 70% of the income
and he seemed comfortable with it
She tried to get him to enroll for online
courses, improve himself
He didn't get it
He had been doing a job he loved for
twenty years before he met her
He had provided for his family and
lived a responsible life
She had no cause to complain
He sponsored her through nursing
school on his pay
The job was good and stable and he
He had a good relationship with his boss
and other staff members
Everything is not money!
The children were going to a good school
before she changed their
school and they were living in a fine
apartment before she insisted on
moving them to a bigger and more
He had tagged along because he wanted to please her
But he didn't count on her turning
the table and claiming he wasn't
earning enough to sustain a lifestyle he
didnt want or desire!
She accused him of lacking a drive
and settling for less when he could
It became an issue
He reported her to her mother
Her mother intervened
In 2011, she informed him she
had gotten a job offer in a hospital in Texas!
She said the job is the opportunity
of a lifetime and she cannot pass it
He was shocked!
It came out of nowhere!
What was he supposed to do in Texas?
His life was in New York
His friends, his job, his life, everything!
He didn't understand his wife again
He put up a fight
She fought back
She was prepared for him
He had been ambushed!
He had neither the energy nor the
resources to match her pound for
He called friends and families
His wife was deaf to them all
One evening, he returned from the
office and found the apartment
His wife had packed her bags and
the children and left!
He had no option but to max out his
credit card and buy a ticket to Texas
At least so that he can see his children!
When he got to Texas, he met the shock of his life!
His wife had bought a house and
furnished it to taste
He had no say!
He had been rigged out of her life!
She was prepared to move on without
him in every way!
It was a blow!
His wife's reaction when she saw
him spoke volume
She said "Wow, you came?"
It was as if she had zeroed her mind
on leaving him behind!
He stayed the weekend
She put him in the guest room
He didn't even protest
It is her house and he didn't want
to be accused of rape
He left two days later, on Sunday
He did not doubt in his heart that
the marriage was over
He told himself to man up and fight
for his home
But his wife was not interested in
the union again
He was very convinced of that!
He was right!
One month later, he got the divorce
He waited a week
He called his mother in law
He called friends and family members
He called their pastors
After much deliberations
He signed it
The marriage was over
He had visiting rights and the
children are free to spend
holidays with him
But it was a prophecy that birthed
What went wrong?
One year later, he was at home
when his phone started buzzing
It was his whatsapp messages
Someone sent him pictures of his
She was getting married to another
She had moved on!
He had naively assumed that the
battle was temporary and somehow
his wife will come back to him
apologising and begging for
He was wrong!
He also assumed that God will somehow
punish his wife for going
against the prophecy
He was wrong again!
He reached out to the Brother in
Jeans and T-shirt
God was supposed to be sovereign!
No one should be able to do anything
outside of God's will!
Why did God allow this to happen?
The Brother in Jeans and T-shirt
told him not to be bitter against God!
It wasn't God's fault that the marriage was broken!
Man is a strong stakeholder in
the reality we call life!
Some say "God let your will be done"
and there are some to whom
God will eventually have to say
"Brother or sister, let your
will be done"