Addressing Mindsets

In the book of Judges, a certain woman 
was on the farm one morning when an 
angel appeared to her
The angel told her she was going to have 
a child and that child will be a powerful 
deliverer to the nation of Israel.
This woman couldn’t accept this blessing 
by faith, she begged the angel to please 
come back and speak to her husband too
The angel obliged her
He returned to the family a few days 
later and delivered the same message to 
both the husband and the wife
The husband offered a sacrifice to God 
for the good news
The angel touched it and the smoke
went up to the heavens.
That was the story of the conception of 
Samson, God didn’t see gender or roles
He actually sent an angel to the wife first, 
but human relationships are imperfect 
and the woman quickly urged the angel 
to share the same with her husband
In Genesis 15, God told Abraham he 
would give him a son but God didn’t 
speak to Sarah
The couple waited a while until Genesis 18 
before God told Sarah the same thing 
face to face
Please look at my reference points in this 
(Genesis and Judges)
Long before Jesus and the Holy Spirit 
came to this world
That was what nature was, the Adamic 
nature which was ruled by the senses
Moses actually made a law stating that 
without the consent of a husband or her 
father, a woman’s decisions in business 
and in life are invalid
He gave a period of time after which 
such a decision could be
considered valid if the lady’s husband or 
father does not protest.
Look at the reference again…
(Moses)
When Jesus met the woman by the well 
in John 4:16-42, he said to her 
(following the same sentiment) 
“Go and get your husband”
To which the woman replied that 
“She had none”
Jesus proceeded to minister to the 
woman anyway despite the fact that 
she was under the roof of a man 
and had been with other men who 
could be called her Husband.
She took salvation to her town, and 
Jesus stayed there with his disciples 
for three days
How Jesus settled this
Woman’s personal issues after getting 
to her town is anybody’s guess but I 
know He didn’t leave her the same way
When the angel appeared to Mary the 
mother of Jesus, he knew she was 
engaged to be married and yet he 
didn’t say a word to the husband to be
He delivered the message
to Mary and she was immediately 
moved into her period of conception
Of course Joseph had an issue with it 
(He was an unregenerated man) and 
he was not filled with the Holy Spirit
He couldn’t take her word for it
He had started planning to put her 
away “discreetly” when the angel
returned with a dream that helped in 
changing his decision.
The New Testament was a bit different 
however if we would remove the bias 
of our carnal life and consider the 
ways of Christ
From the moment Jesus resurrected, 
the name and activities of women 
became prominent through the Holy Spirit
We all know the role of a woman like 
Mary Magdalene, a poor witness in 
the court of law but a solid witness to 
the resurrection of Jesus in the church
Being filled with the Holy Spirit was 
enough of a witness within the early church
Christians were absolutely spirit-led.
On the road to Emmaus, Cleopas and 
his wife were witnesses of the visitation 
of Jesus
The Bible mentioned the name of Cleopas 
the man but because of tradition didn’t 
mention the name of his wife (Luke 24:13-35)
The world and the church are two different 
nations!
One is Darkness and the other is marvelous 
light
I don’t care how the world think or make 
their decisions, I left that country and 
never looked back since September 17, 2007.
I however encourage believers to shed 
the weight of that reality in their walk 
with the Holy Spirit in this new life
It helps to depend on the Holy Spirit in 
all things, not tradition, sentiment, ego, 
distrust or the carnal nature.
Especially as a couple, your walk with 
God must be so good that issues that 
plague the unsaved do not plague you
If you and the men of the world are 
affected by the same sensual issues, 
then what difference does the Holy Spirit 
make?
I have sat across the table from men who 
feel threatened by the success of their 
wives or would hinder their wives from 
certain blessings because it will make 
her higher than them financially or in other
ways
I know a man who insisted his wife shouldn’t 
do international MBA because it will make 
her have more honors than him
Such thinking is worldly and unworthy of a 
Christian that is spirit led
I know many of us are not ready for that 
conversation but we won’t grow without it!
I am happily married and in the course of 
my marriage many great opportunities had 
come the way of my wife
I made sure she took all! 
Not missing one!
This has nothing to do with ego, I am 
spirit-led.
When I was going to get married, a lot of 
people came up with “She is richer than you” 
I ignored them
I am not a gold digger, I am a dispenser of 
blessings
What is money anyway? but an idea that 
exists only in the mind of the poor!
My true value was in my walk in God and 
over the years this has proven to be very 
true
Ego is not a fruit of the spirit, Faithfulness is!
We must do better as couples.
We must find our Center and allow the 
blessings to flow in as led by the Holy Spirit
I drove my wife’s car for many years and 
lived in the apartment she paid rent for
My wife’s brother gave her a car and her 
father (God bless his memory) gave me 
a car too when things were tight
My wife’s ex is married. 
I know him and his wife and we all talk on 
the phone sometimes
I know the world has redefined everything 
but in my own time, relationships are 
platonic until you marry.
Maybe we all should consider that as a 
way of life again!