Wild Oats

He had heard love speak several 
times but not like that 
No the way she made him feel 
Daydreaming while driving was the 
height of it 
She made him lose his head 
She made him lose his self-consciousness 
She made him hum melodies and tunes 
he knew he didn't really learn from 
anywhere
His response to her shocked him 
to the core 
He had always prided himself as a level 
headed, pragmatic and sensible But 
sense had nothing to do with what he 
felt for her 
She was wild, like a boar, like a wild boar
She was the type of girl many mothers 
would pray their son would never meet 
in life
She was as beautiful as a peacock and 
as deadly as a snake 
He met her in church She was not a 
regular 
Their church had a weekly 
interdenominational prayer meeting 
that was held every Thursday morning 
He attended that day because his mother 
insisted and he sat right beside her
It was like sitting beside a time bomb 
He couldn't explain it 
The moment he noticed her, he got 
excited all over 
It was a strange reaction 
All he felt like doing was grabbing her 
by the hand and going somewhere to 
be with her 
It was wild and absolutely out of 
character for him
She knew she had that reaction on him 
She kept looking at him that way and 
giggling At a point, he couldn't keep 
quiet anymore 
He turned around and asked for her name 
She smiled and told him 
Then he asked for her phone number 
She smiled and gave it to him 
When the service was over, she stood up 
to leave 
 He quickly stood up and blocked her way 
He said "I will like to get to know you" 
She smiled and said "I will send you my 
address, check me at home by two" 
He quickly dialed the phone number 
he gave her 
Just to be sure It rang 
She smiled 
He removed himself from her path 
She sashayed out of the pew line 
provocatively 
His heart was racing 
All he could think about was sex 
He was twenty-nine years old 
He had been in a relationship for 
seven years 
A steady relationship that he was 
hoping would lead to a marriage 
He had been a born again Christian
since he clocked 16 
He had walked the straight and narrow 
until his final year in the university when 
he succumbed to pressure and lost his 
virginity 
He was twenty-two years old then 
He and his girlfriend did a lot of 
kissing and cuddling around that 
time due to the uncertainty they were 
starring at as they wee graduating 
Neither of them knew what life had in 
stock for them and they wanted to 
secure whatever they could of their 
feelings for each other 
Somehow hand-holding, led to kisses 
and kisses led to touching each 
other in sensitive places 
They could have stopped but they 
were both lost in the tidal wave of 
that season 
They kept pushing the limit until their 
resolve wore out and they started 
having sex 
Somehow their relationship survived 
the storm that usually broke many 
relationships after graduation and 
NYSC 
They made it
He had met his babe's parents 
unofficially and his babe had met his 
parents too 
His babe got a job at a leading mattress 
manufacturing company as soon as 
she finished her NYSC 
He went for his masters and got employed 
in a bank afterward 
They were both ready to get married 
as soon as five years after graduation 
When they mentioned their intention 
to their parents, they were told to wait 
a few more years and save some more 
His father especially was of the opinion 
that young men and women must sow 
their wild oats before settling down 
so that they wouldn't be unsettled in 
their marriages 
It was the most ridiculous thing he had 
ever heard His father (A nominal Christian) 
has a Ph.D in philosophy and was a 
natural weird thinker 
His mother was of the opinion that if both 
parties are happy and comfortable with it, 
they should get married
His father had negotiated that he had to 
wait until he was thirty 
His father said, if he had not sown his 
wild oats at 30, it is likely he wouldn't 
sow them or perhaps he would sow 
them later and give everybody a 
headache due to the crisis that such 
would cause in his marriage
He had counted his father's counsel 
as foolishness, until that day 
His wild oats were running riot all 
over his body 
He knew he would still do what he 
was planning to do even if he was 
married 
His body was as tense as a snooker stick 
He must putt that black ball into the middle
pocket He went to see her at 2 pm 
She was living in the estate 
About ten minutes away from his parents' 
house 
Most of the buildings in the estate were 
mansions 
Most of the mansions had dstaff quarters 
at the back for the domestic staff and 
sometimes for rent 
She was living in one of those 
She had a roommate who excused them a 
few minutes after she let him into their room 
The room was feminine 
There was a mattress, two plastic chairs, 
and a plastic table 
There was a mirror on the wall and a 
dressing table 
She was dressed in a short skirt that got 
his eyes all glued and his snooker stick 
straight 
She made an attempt to delay the 
inevitable 
She gave him her picture album and 
tried some small talk 
Eventually, she walked by him and 
he grabbed her by the waist 
There was no resistance 
They danced until the dam broke and 
the water gushed
When he got home that day he felt 
both guilty and excited 
His mother would have a fit if she knew 
what he had been up to 
His father would most likely tell his 
mother it was inevitable 
The puzzling thing was the fact that he 
didn't want to marry or have anything 
beyond the moment with the lady 
He would never marry her even if 
he was offered a million dollars to do so 
It was only physical 
It was just sex 
He didn't even care if she was sleeping 
with someone else 
There was nothing emotional about it 
It was simply something he had to get 
out of his system
He promised himself it was over
 He would never have anything to do 
with the wild girl again 
The girl didn't ask him for anything 
Not even his name 
He wasn't even sure who was using 
who between the two of them 
The sex was unbelievable 
She knew so much and he was 
willing to learn
By 6 pm that same day he drove to 
her house 
This time her roommate was in the 
room with her own guy 
He met her on her street, speaking 
with an elderly man 
When she saw him she smiled and 
walked over to his car 
She told him she was marketing a real 
estate product to the elderly man
He found out she was a marketer for 
a real estate company and she survived 
off the commission paid in by customers 
He took her to a hotel 
She told him she was not in the mood 
He begged her 
She asked him to promise it would be 
the last time 
He promised 
They got a room 
He returned her home by 11 pm 
It was the first time he had ever stayed 
outside her parent's house till that time 
without calling in to explain what was 
going on 
His parents were worried stiff by the 
time he got home 
He told them he took a lady out to dinner 
His mother told him she had called
his fiance when they couldn't reach him 
because his phone was switched off 
He switched his phone off because 
he didn't want to be disturbed when he 
was with her 
His father asked him who the lady was 
He started stammering... 
His father began to laugh like a jackal 
He felt undone
He knew his fiance would come to 
the house the next morning
He spent the better half of the night
cooking up a story to tell her
When it was morning he went for
a jog within the estate
He returned home by 9 am 
He showered, dressed up and drove
to the wild lady's house
He knew he had promised her that
it was over but something in his
heart still longed for her
He parked his car close to the gate
of her house and waited
Then his phone rang
It was his fiance
He couldn't explain why he was angry
He just didn't like the fact that she
called
After about ten minutes of ignoring
her call
He went back home
He saw her standing by the gate of
his parent's house
She was in tears
He parked his car and walked up
to her
She said "I know you met another
girl and your head is in the cloud
right now. I just want you to 
remember that you will meet several
ladies in your lifetime and some of
them will cause your blood to boil.
I will meet many men too, whom
I will fancy or find more alluring
than you
Feelings are fleeting but Love is a 
choice.
I love you"
She hugged him and left
He went to his room for some time
He tried to call the wild girl twice
but her number was either engaged
or switched off and she didn't return
his call
The next day, he drove to his fiance's
house 
He took her to dinner
Three weeks later, they initiated their
wedding plan
Two months later, they had their 
introduction and engagement
ceremony
Six months later, they got married!

PS: Event happened in Magodo Estate
Lagos, 2016
Today is their fourth Wedding Anniversary
He shared the story with @gbengawemimo 
overnight
He said he still wondered what happened
to him and why he fell so childishly for the
wild girl
He was grateful that he was able to escape
from the experience without ruining his
life or his relationship with his beautiful
wife
The marriage is blessed with two children

GSW's notes: There are words or
ideas that come alive when we allow
them in our reality
A believer does not have wild oats
to sow
All his or her fruits are miraculous
and meant for supernatural exploits
If you have an idea that you have to
sleep around with a lot of guys
or ladies before settling down so
that you don't cheat on your spouse,
you are being taught and influenced
by the devil who was a liar from the
beginning!
The day you became a believer,
everything about you became
divine and godly
You are far above every idea or 
Philosophy, or ill that befalls 
the sons of men.