She was employed by the church as one of the nurses in the modern maternity center the church built as a Christian Social Responsibility project in their community
She was hard working and very self-reliant
The maternity center catered to pregnant women at highly subsidized rate
The man came to make inquiries about enrolling his sister in the maternity center
He paid the token for the maternity registration fees and went away with the card
She never saw him until one year after
He walked in with a gift for her during the yuletide season
He reminded her of who he was and thanked her for the help she rendered his sister
It was ironic because he never introduced his sister to her directly
As soon as he left with the card the day he did the registration, she forgot all about him
Apparently the sister resumed ante-natal soon after and had since been delivered of a baby girl
He told her he traveled abroad as soon as he settled his sister and her children and had just returned a few days before coming to the maternity to say thank you to her
It was a very unusual visit
He asked her for her phone number when he was leaving
She gladly gave it to him
A few days later he called
He went straight to the point
He told her she had been on his mind and he would like to date her
She paid attention to his words immediately!
She was 29
She had been in the city for over twelve years
She had never had any serious relationship
Sometimes she would notice a budding interest from a brother but it never amounted to anything
She had prayed and fasted
She had waited and “faithed” it
At first she told anybody who cared to listen that she wanted somebody from the East
Especially because of her mother
But as time went on
She was ready to settle for “anything”
But apparently, “anything” wasn’t ready to settle for her!
Though she didn’t know so much about this man, she knew he was a loving man
A man who came to the country to help her younger sister when her husband abandoned her and her two children
A man who cared enough to remember her and bought her a gift to say thank you for her assistance
Even if he did that to “wet the ground and soften his advance towards her”
She would do herself much good to hear him out and get to know him
She could always backtrack and walk away if he wasn’t for her
She agreed to meet with him
They met the following Saturday at the mall
He didn’t say so much
Just walked with her and watched her with his dancing eyes as she settled into his ambiance
She didn’t expect that she would like him that much
He was real
He wasn’t like those guys she had heard about who would be very nice and caring until they got what they wanted
She knew he took what he had with her very serious from the very first minute
Although she went to the mall that day a little bit skeptical about the whole thing, by the time he dropped her at home that evening, she was sure she was in a real relationship
He was the most caring guy ever
Though a little rough around the edges and sometimes impatient
He was her dream come true
He was 39 years old
He had been married before but the marriage ended in a messy divorce about six years before
His former wife and daughter lived somewhere in the East
He had not seen them for some time but planned to see them during the Christmas holidays
He told her the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth about himself
She didn’t have much to say
She had never had a relationship and was praying that God would bring her husband to her
It seemed God answers prayers truly!
He traveled to the East on the 22nd of December
He called her for at least an hour every morning and evening throughout his two weeks stay in the East
He was the first person she saw as she was coming out of the church after the crossover service of December 31st/January 1st
She was so happy!
He drove her home that morning around 1 am and asked if he could come in
She knew what he wanted
She longed to spend time with him too, she had missed him so much
But her apartment was in disarray
She didn’t want to put her wrong foot forward with him
He had always treated her with dignity and respect
She didn’t know what to say…
She told him she would rather like to know his apartment
He smiled and he drove her to his house at Ilupeju estate
She loved his apartment
The reality she was living in was even better than her dream
There was only one piece missing in the jigsaw puzzle
He was not a born again Christian!
As they settled down into each other’s arms on his couch
She knew what would most likely happen between them
The euphoria of being together, crossing into the New Year together, being together in his apartment for the first time and being in each other’s space for the first time was too much of a dynamite
There would be an explosion!
She told him as much!
She said “If you try anything with me now I will be unable to resist, my heart is already pounding and I feel like butter in a hot frying pan! Resistance would be futile. And yet, I know I would wake up with regret if I don’t tell you something that has been on my mind for a long time”
He was as vulnerable as she was
He had been in love before and tasted its sharp edge, he was in no hurry to dive into the deep end of the pool with another woman regardless of how intense the electricity in his members was
“What had been on your mind for a long time?” He asked!
She tried her best to explain it to him!
He bought it!
She knew he did!
His eyes started shinning and his face glowed
They prayed together and he started speaking in tongues!
Three days later she took him to her church
He joined the new converts class and started growing in the Lord
He began to change, first his language and then his mannerism
The gospel indeed is powerful
She accepted his proposal
They started talking marriage!
She took him to her people
Her people loved him!
He took her to his folks
She was accepted!
About a month later, after church service one Sunday, the pastor invited him to his office for a chat
She was on duty at the maternity
She left him in church
Later in the evening he called
They needed to see.
He sounded very serious
She drove straight to his house
His ex-wife’s family and church pastors have reached out to their pastor
His ex-wife had been told of his plan to remarry
She would like him to consider reconciliation for the sake of their daughter and the Word of God
One of the key issues they had when they were married was the fact that he was not born again
She was and she tried her best but couldn’t cope with his worldly ways
She had always prayed for him that one day he would come to the knowledge of Christ
Now that her prayers have been answered
Would he consider giving their marriage a second chance?
She didn’t know why her legs started trembling
Her knees wobbled
It was not a question of right and wrong
It was a question of her heart!
She loved this man
She showed this man the way of salvation
She was planning to be married to this man
She saw the tears in his eyes
Instinctively she knew he had thought deeply about everything and was considering dumping her
She could read his mind
It occurred to her immediately
That though they love each other
It was easy for him to walk away because they had not been physically intimate
(She didn’t know why she thought this way but it was the first thing that came into her mind)
She composed herself
"She is a woman
She will fight for what is hers!"
She told him to relax!
“It is not the end of the world, it is important for us to take our time and not rush into any premature decision”
(She said this to test the waters)
She saw the relief in his eyes
Her heart sank
It was as she thought!
(He would have broken her heart because of his tender conscience, but he didn’t want to hurt her and was banking on her understanding to handle the issue without making any mess!)
She didn’t go home that night
She was determined to make a mess of everything
Why should she be the good girl!
Why should she sow for another person to reap?
She kissed him
She started crying
She knew his conscience was heavily burdened, the iron was hot, she had to strike!
She slept with him
It was devilish and manipulative
She wouldn’t stand idly by and lose him
She just wouldn’t!
The next evening she came back to his house, they went for a walk
She refused to let him bring up the topic
She told him she just wanted to enjoy whatever time they will have together before the issue arrived at their doorstep
It took two months
One Sunday evening
His pastor and his ex-wife’s pastor invited him for a meeting
She waited for him to go for the meeting
She drove to the Pastor’s house
She met the pastor’s wife at home and showed her the pregnancy test’s result
She was pregnant!
She hadn’t even told her man
She just wanted them to know and factor it into their deliberations
The pastor’s wife didn’t mince words
She looked at her and said “You did this deliberately and it is an act of wickedness! In this days of condom, birth control pills and withdrawal method, you cannot tell me you accidentally got pregnant for another woman’s husband! You are a home wrecker and a marital destiny destroyer! There is a special place deliberately designed in hell for the likes of you! Get out of my sight immediately!
She scampered out of the Pastor’s wife’s office
When she got home, she thought about the Pastor’s wife’s words over and over again
It is true that she was stupid
It is equally true that she did not impregnate herself
It took two!
Three hours later he returned from the meeting
He looked at her
She didn’t know what to expect but she had braced herself
She took a gamble!
She prayed it would pay off
He: Is it true that you are pregnant?
She handed him the pregnancy test result
He carried her and twirled round and round with her
He: What do we do now?
She: Whatever you want!
They thought it through later that night and he decided it would be best if he took custody of his daughter
He traveled to the East the following weekend and had a meeting with his ex-wife and her family’
His daughter was released to him
They got married two months later at Ikoyi registry
They relocated to Germany when she was five months pregnant
Ps: This event happened in Lagos/Aba 2012/2013
The couple are happily married with three children
They still live in Germany